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How Could You Do That?!: The Abdication of Character, Courage, and Conscience (平装)
by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
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Personal responsibility, Behavior, Self improvement, and Self help |
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| MSL Pointer Review:
Through this entertaining and straightforward book, the author made a powerful plea for using character, consience and courage in our life decisions. |
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Terry Brandebourg (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I’d like to preface everything I say by admitting that I listen to the radio show approximately 1-2 times a month. This book is an excellent door to examining one's own actions. Dr Laura uses examples from her radio show to illustrate her points. It is a quick read but I found many of points to require some deep pondering. The book basically challenges the reader to go beyond rationalizing bad behavior to developing a philosophy of personal responsibility. It’s clear, concise and devoid of demagoguery. All in all, this book offers a practical guide for making life's toughest decisions. The author challenges the reader as well as equips them with the tools to rise to the challenge. I at least challenge you to read the book before reviewing it. |
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Claster (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
There is really no such thing as unconditional self-acceptance. Those who say so are promulgating a pernicious falsehood. One must first live a decent, honorable and productive life. Only then do you get to feel good about yourself. Seeking to heedlessly gratify your desires or impulses of the moment to do things (or fail to do things) your conscience knows to be contrary to your standards of right, worthy and virtuous behavior is, in a mental, emotional and spiritual sense, akin to spending capital that you have not earned, and therefore will eventually cause you to feel very negatively not just about your behavior but also about who and what you are (except, perhaps, for sociopaths). You cannot have your cake and eat it too. The longer, for better or worse, you behave in certain ways, the more it comes to define you, not only to others but also to yourself. Thank you, Dr. Laura, for helping me to learn this lesson of life. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Many moral and ethical systems are difficult to understand. If you have trouble with Kirkegaard, but still want to improve yourself and do good in the world, this book will be very helpful to you. It outlines clearly and in an entertaining fashion how to make moral decisions. It's actually very simple: if your conscience tells you something is wrong, or if you find yourself saying, "I know I shouldn't, but..." just don't do it! This book is a breath of fresh air. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
If you are in a transition period in your life where you really want to examine yourself, your behaviors and your relationships this is the book for you. Noted Radio psychologist Dr. Laura Schlessinger, known to millions as simply "Dr. Laura" packs her standard no-nonsense-2 punch in analyzing an array of interpersonal difficulties that we all face in some way or another.
The nature of the book is mostly anecdotal as Schlessinger uses the stories of various persons with whom she has spoken on her call-in show. Using short vignettes, she paints vivid pictures of behaviors and dilemmas common to us all. These pedagogical scenarios - usually just a few paragraphs long - have pithy little titles such as "But… It Is Expedient" and "But… I Just Don't Wanna." Without using a lot of complicated psycho-theory, she points out that often problems are not that complicated. Often, problems we have or we perceive ourselves as having are really just difficulties we have facing the reality of a situation and disliking the consequences of "doing the right thing."
Some persons might misconstrue the good doctor as setting herself up as some sort of moral arbiter or values guru. She makes no such claim and demands no adherence to any creed but personal responsibility and courage. This in and of itself, will upset a lot of people in our culture where such concepts are not pretty, sexy or glamorous, but it is not so much ridiculous tripe as her detractors would claim. In fact, a lot of it is just common sense with which any agnostic could agree..
I stumbled across this book at a time when I needed a good Jewish mother like Dr. Laura to straighten me out on a number of issues I was facing as I was living away from home on my own and supporting myself for the first time in my life. A lot of the problems I felt people were giving me were, in fact, problems I was giving myself. In a very real way this book helped me come to accept a lot of what I had already known all along - I would have to move on from these situations, no matter how difficult, if I wanted things to be better. No one was going to stop and hold my hand as I moaned the "poor me" song and wept crocodile tears.
Get this book, read this book, and become a better person as you see yourself in the scenarios...
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Nadine (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I've read more books in my 23 years than most have in their entire life and I have to say that this is the most amazing, on point book I have ever read. If anyone can say anything negative about this book I would be shocked. She basically simplifies and breaks down life. The advice she has given in the book and on her show is advice that is right on point. We know what what is right and wrong yet we usually choose what is easiest, often suffering in the long run. If people were to live their lives with honesty and integrity, the world would be an easier place. If you've read this book and was offended, chances are you've been in the same situation as some of the examples in the book and don't want to admit that you were wrong. I think that the guidelines set in this book should be taught to every child and adult on the planet. |
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Nanci (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
When I started listening to Dr. Laura, I thought she was right on. People need to have values and integrity. But eventually her finger wagging and self-righteousness got to me. Then I began to look more closely at her advice; shunning, judging, and the most obvious: oversimplification. It is easy to judge when you over-simplify the issues. But life isn't black and white, it is many shades of grey. Although she will tell you she has faced challenges, any person who feels they are always right and you are always wrong will have lessons to learn.
On the other hand, I feel she has often been mis-judged and abused herself. We do, as a society, seem to look for ways to shoot down anyone who stands up for good, and who has integrity of their beliefs. If you listen closely to her, she is actually compassionate. I agree with her stand on day care, working mothers, and thoughtless pregnancies. I could go into examples, but it would get pretty ridiculous.
Suffice it to say, this book is a good balance for books like Ann Rice puts out, and the many SELF help books.
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I just can't understand why anyone would not give this book 5 stars. No, I don't always agree with her sarcastic and straight-forward style, but she has so many good and moral points that wouldn't hurt any one of us to be aware of. The book has given me much to think about and I'm a better person for reading it. I think that anyone giving this book a negative review is not seeing the overall positive impact it can have on people. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Having only heard Dr. Laura's radio show a couple of times I was reluctant to try this book. I thought she treated her callers rather rough. Now I know why. She is trying to use the minimal amount of time she has to help the caller view the situation from a position few think of, that of right and wrong.
This was a fun book to listen to (I had the unabridged book on tape). Yes, fun. The reader started sounding just like Dr. Laura and was most interesting. I had the impression I was listening to Dr. Laura herself dictate the book. Her examples from people who had called or written her were interesting and helped clarify her positions.
Dr. Schlessinger made a powerful plea for using character, consience and courage in our life decisions. I have always believed in good and evil, right and wrong. This book helped me understand why good and right are the best way from what almost seems like a purely practical standpoint. Hearing this subject from the religious pulpit is fine, but it is about time we started hearing about it from other sources as well. Thank you Dr. Laura.
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Although she can be abrasive and appear rude, Dr.Laura is right on in her thoughts on responsibility and courage. She knows the human condition but allows no excuses for simple bad behavior. Of course she gets 'riled up' when people don't 'get it'. Whining and excuses for our self-made situations are not tolerated... so sad, too bad. This is a great book, read it! |
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A negative review (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I find this woman's attitude and sharp tongue totally disgusting. Why would anyone listen to anything she has to say when her own character seems to me to be in question. She is sarcastic, cruel, and seems to enjoy demeaning others - not my idea of a role model or someone who's advice I want to take. Save your money. Save your time. By the way, she isn’t a psychlogist! Isn't it obvious that she has no credentials that equip her to be advising others on their behavior and relationships. You have all been duped! |
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