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The Pocket Parent (平装)
by Gail Reichlin, Caroline Winkler
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With this motivating and practical guide, you are armed with alternatives of yelling, bribing, threatening, criticizing and punishing in dealing with your toddlers. |
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(Author of The Difficult Child and Normal Kids Have Problems Too) (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
At last, a how-to book on parenting that has depth as well as offering excellent, practical advice. Stanley Turecki, M.D. |
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Carolyn Newberger, Ed,D., (Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychology, Harvard Medical School), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
A superb handbook for parents: humane, reassuring, practical. Thirty years ago when I was a young mother, Dr. Spock was on my bedside table. If I were that mother today, The Pocket Parent would be there, as well as in my purse, my car, and anywhere else I could consult it at a moment's notice. |
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Marianne Neifert, M.D. ("Dr Mom", Contributing Editor to Parenting Magazine), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
Written in a positive compassionate tone and sprinkled with personal anecdotes, this invaluable compendium offers expert wisdom for positively shaping children's behavior while strengthening family bonds. |
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Eileen Kennedy (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
This is a great resource that should be on every parents' shelf! It offers down-to-earth, sensible tips for dealing with a multitude of common parenting dilemmas, but my favorite parts are the funny stories. Being a parent is a hard job, but it's easier if we keep a sense of humor and relish the ridiculous situations that inevitably occur with kids. It's also reassuring to know that the authors have 'been there!' I highly recommend this book. |
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Perry Flemington (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
My wife and I continue to find this refernce book to be the most helpful guide we own for suggestions in dealing with the challenging behavior of our 2 and 3 year old sons for 6 reasons:
1. We love the overall tone of the book and sense of humor throughout from the authors who are also parents themselves. We feel comforted that we are not alone in the daily challenges we face with our toddlers.
2. Pocket Parent clearly taught us (formerly very permissive parents) how to become STRICT disciplinarians who no longer allow our children to "rule the roost" and get their whining demands met all the time.
3. Pocket Parent offers hundreds of POSITIVE sensible strategies of how a parent can remain in COMPLETE CHARGE of the misbehaving child WITHOUT resorting to the more "automatic negative parenting pilot" reponses of yelling, nagging, bribing, threatening (which were not working most of the time for us anyway!).
4. Pocket Parent suggestions (called sanity savers) are very practical and parent friendly...the book is not clinical nor condescending with "shoulds" and "donts" from "holier than thou experts."
5. Pocket Parent covers every behavior you can think of in an easy alphabetical, quick read bulleted format. We keep our copy in the bathroom to QUICKLY refer to again and again in our few moments of peace.
6. Pocket Parent is fun to read and priced very reasonably...this year's stocking stuffer for all our friends with 2-6 year olds. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
I totally agree with the internationally recognized and respected author of The Difficult Child, Dr Stanley Turecki, regarding his endorsement on the back of this very easy to read discipline guide... that The Pocket Parent is not only filled with hundreds of practical specific strategies to try immediately in the heat of the moment, but that the authors offer "depth" towards long term understanding regarding "the why's" of children's behavior problems and how to solve them.
Before I read this book, I thought that punishment on the spot was the only way you stay "in charge" as an adult while getting children to pay their dues for their bad behavior....and it wasn't working most of the time with my 3 and 6 year old sons. In fact, when I tried the Supernanny's technique of placing my tantruming toddler on "The Naughty Stool" I did not get any remorse at all from the child but instead I got only revenge and resentment (I couldn't even get my sreaming, punching, arched-back toddler to bend at the waist to sit on the chair at all for the prescribed 3 minutes!) I felt like my son won and I was a failure as the disciplinarian... and I am NOT a wimpy, permissive parent.
"The Pocket Parent" makes so much sense. It does NOT suggest parents "give in" to their children...although it does suggest that we have to choose our battles. I was aware that I can't fight them all in the heat of the moment, but with the guidance of this book, I realized that does not mean that we should forget to address the lesson of the situation later. "Pocket Parent" teaches that discipline is a PROCESS and parents and other childcare professionals have many daily opportunities to discipline (defined as TEACHING not punishing) both in the heat of the moment (to stop the undesirable or dangerous behavior) and then OUTSIDE the heat of the moment to CONTINUE teaching the lesson again and again, including making a plan for success (often with the input of the child) to avoid the same misbehavior from happening in a similar situation. I learned that many of the most "teachable discipline moments" occur when the adult and the child are calm and able to communicate...talk AND listen to each other more effectively.
For example, as suggested in this book, I found that by taking a few minutes BEFORE we leave our house to PRACTICE the proper manners I'm after when we get to my neighbor's, I got the cooperation. We practiced specifically 2 things... 1) the words we use to respectfully greet adults and other children and 2) how my son could politely get my attention without any words (like screaming "excuse me" repeatedly while pounding on my hip)... just by using a signal we agreed upon and practiced (also from the book)...in this case, gently pulling on my little finger to get the attention that he needed to tell me something important as soon as I stopped talking to the other mommy (he decided which hand he would use). Prioritizing the time to make "a plan for success" was the most helpful positive discipline technique I learned from this book. And it is something you can do outside the heat of the moment of a misbehavior.
The second most important strategy I learned is that we as caring, well-meaning parents and caregivers tend to tell children too often what they can't do and not enough of the time what they CAN do. This bit of advice has also made an amazing difference in gaining cooperation from my children. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
I totally agree with the internationally recognized and respected author of The Difficult Child, Dr Stanley Turecki, regarding his endorsement on the back of this very easy to read discipline guide...that The Pocket Parent is not only filled with hundreds of practical specific strategies to try immediately in the heat of the moment, but that the authors offer "depth" towards long term understanding regarding "the why's" of children's behavior problems and how to solve them.
Before I read this book, I thought that punishment on the spot was the only way you stay "in charge" as an adult while getting children to pay their dues for their bad behavior....and it wasn't working most of the time with my 3 and 6 year old sons. In fact, when I tried the Supernanny's technique of placing my tantruming toddler on "The Naughty Stool" I did not get any remorse at all from the child but instead I got only revenge and resentment (I couldn't even get my sreaming, punching, arched-back toddler to bend at the waist to sit on the chair at all for the prescribed 3 minutes!) I felt like my son won and I was a failure as the disciplinarian... and I am NOT a wimpy, permissive parent.
"The Pocket Parent" makes so much sense. It does NOT suggest parents "give in" to their children...although it does suggest that we have to choose our battles. I was aware that I can't fight them all in the heat of the moment, but with the guidance of this book, I realized that does not mean that we should forget to address the lesson of the situation later. "Pocket Parent" teaches that discipline is a PROCESS and parents and other childcare professionals have many daily opportunities to discipline (defined as TEACHING not punishing) both in the heat of the moment (to stop the undesirable or dangerous behavior) and then OUTSIDE the heat of the moment to CONTINUE teaching the lesson again and again, including making a plan for success (often with the input of the child) to avoid the same misbehavior from happening in a similar situation. I learned that many of the most "teachable discipline moments" occur when the adult and the child are calm and able to communicate...talk AND listen to each other more effectively.
For example, as suggested in this book, I found that by taking a few minutes BEFORE we leave our house to PRACTICE the proper manners I'm after when we get to my neighbor's, I got the cooperation. We practiced specifically 2 things... 1) the words we use to respectfully greet adults and other children and 2) how my son could politely get my attention without any words (like screaming "excuse me" repeatedly while pounding on my hip)... just by using a signal we agreed upon and practiced (also from the book)... in this case, gently pulling on my little finger to get the attention that he needed to tell me something important as soon as I stopped talking to the other mommy (he decided which hand he would use). Prioritizing the time to make "a plan for success" was the most helpful positive discipline technique I learned from this book. And it is something you can do outside the heat of the moment of a misbehavior.
The second most important strategy I learned is that we as caring, well-meaning parents and caregivers tend to tell children too often what they can't do and not enough of the time what they CAN do. This bit of advice has also made an amazing difference in gaining cooperation from my children. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
If you have a 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old, this book is the best quick reference we have discovered on the market. It is filled with hundreds of strategies to try for just about every behavior challenge you toddler/preschooler throws your way... Bad Words, Tantrums, Eating and Bedtime Refusals, the Gimees, Potty Training, Not Listening, Sibling Fights, Lying, Whining and many more. I like the way the authors say, "Each parent is the true expert of his/her child... no one knows that child better than his own parents." And, the author suggests that each parent choose the tips or plans that make good sense for their family and give them a try. We keep this book on our bedside table and consult it often for sanity saving suggestions on a weekly (sometimes daily) basis. You will read very sensible, simple advice that you often forget is an option in the heat of the moment when you are feeling angry, tired, embarrassed, stressed or simply at the end of your rope on a very bad day with the children. We love the sense of humor from the authors who also share some of their own personal parenting trials and triumphs. Helpful, reasonable priced and fun to read! |
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K. Jordan (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
I think this is a great book with many easy to use, quick reminders of ways to manage your kiddos! It's a good list of things you can try to get the behavior you're looking for. It gives tips for potty training, what to do if they're using bad words, fighting, etc.
If you look up 'power struggles' the book encourages you to try not to ask yes/no questions if "no" is an unacceptable answer - you've just set yourself up for a struggle if the kid says "no". Instead reply with "Yes, after you..." It also suggests that when you state your request in as few words as possible it is less likely to be tuned out.
Or a discipline technique reminds you to make the consequence of misbehavior immediate (e.g. timeout vs. moving bedtime earlier from 7:00 to 6:30). If the consequence is too far away, they don't associate it with the behavior.
It also helps reinforce good behavior. For example, if you look up 'self-esteem' it reminds you to praise your children for specific things (e.g. "Thank you for picking up all your toys and putting them away neatly" vs. "Good job"). It also suggests not using "best" and "greatest" as in "best swimmer" which can create difficult expectations to live up to. Instead, praise them for being "very creative" or "doing a smart thing", not "being the smartest kid".
It's easy to read and provides useful tips or scenarios from various individual's experiences.
In short, no two kids are alike and no one strategy works all the time. I recommend it as a resource to give you ideas about different things to try with your kids. |
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Fran Goldman (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
In December, the Chicago-based author of this book spoke to parents and teachers in our school district in San Jose, CA where she received a standing ovation. She totally WOWed us with her enlightening, encouraging and very entertaining style. Those same three words describe her easy reference very popular guidebook (with almost 100,000 copies in print).
Pocket Parent is quite unique and very well-priced - considering the wealth of information and friendly support offered between its 400 hundred pages... all targeted to moms AND dads with children in a most challenging 4-year age span...2's, 3's, 4's and 5's.
This book offers clearly organized, very specific information on a variety of behaviors with compassion, experience, and humor.
THE POCKET PARENT is designed for busy parents to refer to as needed--each chapter stands alone. It is written in quick bullets of information rather than paragraphs so you do not have to read the entire book cover to cover to get a couple of ideas to try immediately (or later as things calm down).
The practical information is combined with insight and long term understanding towards successfully changing behavior... both the child's and the parent's.
Pocket Parent is literally a pocket-sized (4" X 8") A-Z guide, addressing every challenging situation you can think of such as... Anger, Bad Words, Bedtime, Biting, "Gimmes", Hitting, Interrupting, Listening, Lying, Mealtime, Morning "Crazies", Potty Training, Power Struggles, Tantrums, Time-Outs that aren't working...and much more.
I keep this book handy on my bedside table - ready to give me some strategies to try for the next day... along with a much needed "verbal hug" when I'm feeling guilty that I've been a frazzled, failure of a mother earlier that day. Pocket Parent is definitely NOT preachy nor condescending from "holier than thou" experts. The authors include many humorous anecdotes (some personal regarding their own children) that truly hit home from beginning to end. Those are my favorite parts of this book.
I highly recommend this comprehensive, parent-friendly reference book that offers sanity saving advice and support from beginning to end. |
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