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Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why (平装)
by Dr. Susan Forward, Joan Torres
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Marriage, Relationship, Motivation |
| Market price: ¥ 168.00
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| MSL Pointer Review:
Take a look at the Book Description and you know this book is not just for women in dysfunctional relatioships. It's for everyone in a relationship really. |
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Abigail Van Buren ("Dear Abby”) (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Very important and much needed... This how-to book could be a lifesaver. |
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Sonya Friedman (Ph.D., author of Smart Cookies Don't Crumble) (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
A must read for any woman who has ever been in a destructive relationship. |
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Howard Halpern (Ph.D., author of How to Break Your Addiction to a Person), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Required reading for women who are in relationships with angry, intimidating, and controlling men. |
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Library Journal (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Forward is a therapist, author, and talk-show host whose specialty is abusive relationships. This book grew out of her realization that her own marriage as well as those of many of her clients followed a pattern. Many men need to control their relationships completely and consequently are mentally (if not physically) abusive. They denigrate their partners, resent them if they have any outside interests, and become furious for trivial reasons. Women with low self-esteem are drawn to these men because they can also be charming and devoted. Forward devotes the first half of the book to an analysis of the problem, the second half to breaking the pattern and getting outside help. No bibliography, but competent and interesting, and sure to be popular. |
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Lorrie (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
This book is the BIBLE of dysfunctional relationships: Dr. Forward is simultaneously empowering and sympathetic as she lays out the anatomy of misogynists and how they strip the power from their "loved" ones by slowly corroding their self-esteem and reflecting THEIR problems onto HER. Her advice and techniques gave me more ways to get a point across, and to keep my focus and realize, most importantly, to NEVER, EVER blame myself for his shortcomings and how his background is coloring things. I could almost kiss her for giving me that. I've given this book to other women in similar straits, and it can be a LIFESAVER!!! If you find that your man goes from treating you like class to trash for no reason, or you want to avoid that cliff before you reach it, THIS BOOK IS IT. Thank you, Dr. Forward, for giving me confidence in my own instincts. And men, if you recognize yourself and want to shape up before getting kicked to the curb, then this book is for you too. If this book was required reading before issuing marriage licenses, there wouldn't be such a high divorce rate. Turn the tide in your life and GET THE BOOK... it may be the best investment in yourself and your relationship you've ever made. |
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Beth (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
This book was a real help to me in deciding if I should or shouldn't stay with my husband. After reading it, I realized I wasn't at fault for everything in our marriage and I didn't have to stand for the abusive treatment from him. Thank you Mom, for getting me this book. It's been 11 years and it has changed my life for the better. And more importantly, it has made Beth's life better. She is a much more confident and together kid than she would have been if we had stayed as he was also doing it to her. This book was our salvation. To the writer, thank you so much. I want it for a friend. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
This book gives a realistic view of how abusive relationships ensnare normal, healthy people and how to recognize if you are involved in one. Written for women, this applies to anyone. Abusive family member, boss, or partner; the lessons imparted allow the reader to compare and evaluate, to determine whether their relationship is undermining their sense of self. |
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Wendy Koenigsmann (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Since I run a major website about psychopathy and have read all the "standard" fare about psychopaths, I thought books like this one here were silly, like the Men Are From Mars... genre. Little did I know. Dr. Black, a reknowned expert on psychopaths, has said that this book reminds him of women who are actually in love with psychopaths, not just misogynists.
Sad to say, every 3 out of 10 men is psychopathic, which is probably why these types of book were written, for women who tend to run into the same "3" every time! Ladies, make the investment and buy the paperback copy, there is no excuse not to. Also, check out other books about psychopathy as well. For women who would rather send men to Mars than deal with anymore crap, READ this book and then follow up on more literature about psychopathy like The Emptied Soul and Dr. Hare's classic Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us.
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Every woman I have ever met has had at least one of these men enter their lives and undermine their self-confidence. Although I read this book many years ago, it is a benchmark against I measure all other relationship books. This type of man is all too common and they are modern day vampires slowly draining the life out of their prey. My father killed my mother by grinding her down slowly day by day. She died of colon cancer to get away from my dad believing she was useless and no good, it was an untimely end, to a once self-confident, vibrant and talented woman, she was 50. I got involved with one of these types of men and out of desperation I went hunting in the bookstore to find SOMETHING. I couldn't be alone in this I thought.
Thanks, Susan you saved my life. These men are so charming, at first, they have such charming personalities, a dream come true, till you wake up in their nightmare. Many girls in our society have emotionally unavailable fathers and will do anything to get their fathers attention. Good grades and cartwheels just to get dad's attention and love. Those young girls replay this wound by being attracted to emotionally unavailable men. At first these men are very attentive and flattering, but it soon turns ugly. The dynamic is in place, reward and punishment. I have even SEEN and HEARD young boys teaching other boys to use the same ugly techniques as outline in this book to undermine a woman’s self- confidence and control her, eventually to destroy her. GET THIS BOOK! |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-29 00:00>
Finally, a book that described my relationship perfectly. So many other books address men who are physically abusive, but what about those who slowly wear you down with manipulation and subtle verbal insults - men who have great jobs, men who everyone (outside the home) think are fabulous, men who are great friends to others and great workers. I live with someone who everyone else adores, but at home he turns into Mr. Hyde. He then blames me for his change in behavior. I thought I was alone (and it was indeed my fault) until I found this book. What a difference it has made in my life. I now know, without a doubt, that his behavior is not my fault. Susan's account of how men end up resenting women is right on for this relationship. And how they redirect their childhood experiences toward their intimate partners instead of where it should be directed. One writer says she thinks these relationships can be saved. The ONLY way they can be saved is for the men to realize how they got this way and be willing to do a huge amount of work to change their behaviors towards their intimate partners. If a man cannot do this, then the relationship cannot be saved. Why waste years of your life hoping a man will change. Susan says they don't suffer like the women they are with and I think that is true. For the first time in my life, I developed anxiety, depression, and significant weight gain from trying to "make him see the light". I now realize that it is not worth my health to try to get a man who has deep resentment towards women to change. I hope every woman in this situation realizes that, if you talk to the man about this and he does nothing consistently to change (counseling) than you are better off leaving and resuming a normal life where you can be truly happy. If you meet someone who seems too good to be true, check him out. Does he have broken relationships & marriages? How is his relationship with his mother? If you feel uneasy about him or he starts to put you down little by little or blames you for his behaviors at home - get Susan's book, then run for your life! |
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