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Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again - With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation (平装)
by David J. Liberman
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Self defence, Influence, Persuasion, Life skills |
| Market price: ¥ 158.00
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| MSL Pointer Review:
Well researched with accurate evaluation of human nature and practical strategies, this book is extremely useful in business as well as in personl situations. |
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Simone Spence (founder of The Spence Foundation) (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
The United States owes Dr. Lieberman our deepest gratitude. His techniques are simple to use, extremely effective, and have made our job of helping children significantly easier. |
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Publishers Weekly (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
It cuts to the chase, presenting simple, concise techniques,...[and] useful strategies rooted in basic human psychology and supported by numerous studies. |
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Self magazine (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
Ever wish you could win people over to your point of view, no matter how crazy your idea? You can, with these [tools] to successful persuasion. |
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Bill Clapp (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
There are times in life when situations arise that we are not equipped to deal with. This book covers all the ones that I can think of plus quite a few more. Each chapter covers a different subject in a short, concise yet thorough manner with bullet points at the end for easy recall. I highly recommend it to anyone, particularly parents. |
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Joseph Plazo (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
I enjoyed exploring ten years of NLP and other allied fields of behavioral sciences. My fondess for the topic allowed me to discover books penned by esteemed men such as O'Conner, Bandler, Cialdini and even Milton Erickson. What I easily observed from some of these weighter tomes is that the systems they espoused were largely culture and language bound. For instance, translating NLP to a foreign flavor may naturally dilute its desired impact. Ever tried structural NLP in French or Tagalog? It'll short-circuit your mind!
I picked up a copy of Get Anyone to Do Anything and I immediately found myself spell bound. Here was a system that transcends culture and language... easily empowering ANYONE to achieve magical heights of success in virtually all realms of human interaction. I thought I've seen it all, but this takes home the trophy for applicability, universality and simplicity. The author considerately broke down each major topic into digestible chunks that you will easily remember... and naturally leverage for personal power. As you casually browse through each section, you will gradually realize what you've been doing wrong all these years... and how to do them right! Learning skills on leadership, interpersonal attraction and assertiveness has never been easier.
I've recommended this book to all my associates and I look forward to more books of this caliber. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
I enjoyed the book, but found it to be somewhat without substance. While David Leiberman certainly has done a lot of research, I found it somewhat lacking. There are 40 chapters, each just a few pages, and 40 ideas. He takes research and studies from various places and presents them in to the reader with little or no explanation. i.e.
"Want to tell if someone is nervous about anything? Look for these two signs. If they are not smiling and breathing regularly and deeply then they are not as calm as they would like you to believe! (You can tell if a person is *not* breathing regularly because you'll notice every so often he takes a deep breath to get oxygen in very quickly."
This type of statement is very common in the book. No research to back it up, no background on why he "knows" this. All of the information he gives you is second or third hand. It is without context, and is written in an annoying authoritative manner - "This book contains only specific psychological tactics governing human behaviour that will let you outsmart, outthink and outmaneuver... anyone, anyplace anytime. These are carefully formulated tactics based on specific psychological principles and can be applied to any situation."
He, however, does not provide any "specific psychological principals" to apply, just a laundry list of tactics to use. As such, they will be difficult to internalize, difficult to implement, and the lack of an over-riding principle doesn't allow you to veer from the examples he gives.
I reccomend this book if you are a salesman looking to increase your sales and have opportunity “every day” to practice and use the techniques in this book. I can't even reccomend this book for it's bibliography because even when the people he cites are best-selling authors, he cites their works in "The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology" or another such publication. Perhaps we could get this information better by subscribing to a few of the magazines he used as reference material? |
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Richard Fassett (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
I bought this book with, I guess, the belief that the author actually offered esoteric knowledge about the subject he's writing about. Of course, he implies he does right in the title, as a matter of fact. The gentleman knows how to sell.
It's a good book, and in fact, it does exactly what it says it does. It gives you stategies for handling social situations and manipulating people, but they aren't secrets. Many of the tactics are things that we all know we can do. Others are things that we forgot we can do. I don't think many people will find tactics here they've never been exposed to before.
Putting all these strategies together is a great idea, and makes this a worthy read. I should also say this book isn't very academic, so I wouldn't suggest it for research purposes. It describes effective strategies, gives some examples, and then summarizes them. In this form, they're easy to memorize and reference in the future.
Overall, I'd rate it as a concise, easy, effective read. I think it would be a handy reference guide for those who are just starting out in the real world, or perhaps even trying to start their own business, if only so they can see how power players will play them. Had the book been written, printed, titled, and advertised as a pocket reference, I would certainly have given it five stars. |
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Mike Capalbo (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
My opinion of this book went up the more and more that I read it. I stop short of giving 5 stars, because in spots, it still overpromises and underdelivers. Example: Don't think that you could read the chapter "How to beat anybody at anything" and then reasonably expect to go out and beat Serena Williams in tennis.
This book is best read over a few times. The powerful idea that is presented over and over (with variations and twists) is that people tend to act as they see themselves. To most people, this is `obvious' only after it is pointed out to them. Various ideas that are simple, yet brilliant, are sprinkled throughout the book, especially in the middle sections.
That said, I wish that the first chapter: "How to get anyone to like you...every time." were expanded, because I don't believe that what is there is complete. For example, the author talks about repeat exposure...yes indeed, that is why people becomes friends with or date coworkers or neighbors, people they would not otherwise have anything to do with. But in trying to increase the number of interactions you have with someone, especially if that someone is popular or already in a relationship, isn't there such a thing as making a pest of yourself? Aren't there questions or compliments that are too personal? In general, I wish the author would've addressed more fully in the first section of this book is that people tend to have boundaries and filters. Cross a person's boundaries unskillfully and she will likely become very uncomfortable with you. So my concern is that a well-intentioned but misguided soul will read this Chapter 1, and then try to go put and be someone's best friend, with rather bad results. Interpersonal communication is a subtle art, and I'm positive (from thumbing through some of his other books) that Lieberman understands that really well; it just doesn't come through, at least to me, in Chapter 1.
I would gladly buy another book from David Lieberman, especially one that expands on the first section of this book. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
This book offers advice to such questions as: how to be accepted and not seem to be trying, making that first impression as good as gold, finding out if someone is fooling you, how to take control of every situation, how to score points in a job interview or big date, and what it takes to be a leader. And the steps are very forward and flow very well so theres no confusion with any psychological terms. The book is seperated into individual chapters so every question is short and easy to understand. |
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H. McFarland (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-11 00:00>
David J. Lieberman, Ph.D. is a recognized expert in the field of human behavior. With multiple books translated in multiple languages this is yet another fine example of his ability to give sound advice in a down to earth and useful manner. He divides the book into the five following general sections.
Section 1 relates to building rapport both instant rapport and keeping it over long periods. It covers everything from first impressions, to getting someone to like you, to appearing confident, and many other items.
Section 2 relates to detecting if someone is lying or manipulating you.
Section 3 relates to taking control of a situation and getting people to actually do something. Getting someone to actually take your advice, follow through on a commitment, do a favor, get along together, etc. are all covered in this section.
Section 4 relates to winning at a competition. Possible competitions include not only a game but job interviews, dating and similar.
Section 5 relates to dealing with life's normal annoying, difficult situations. For example, people who won't return phone calls, forgiveness, breaking bad news, dealing with rumors, dealing with a complaint, dealing with jealousy, etc.
It is easy to read the title to the book and assume that inside are the secrets to manipulating others and allowing you to take advantage of them. This is not the case at all as Dr. Lieberman starts on page one with the comment that these techniques are not "ways to manipulate other people into liking you". Are you going to get someone who can't stand your personality to suddenly like you and stand in line for the opportunity to do you a favor? Not likely. However, in the hectic world of today just getting someone to slow down enough to even notice you can be quite a chore. This sort of situation is where these techniques are valuable.
Also if you feel manipulated by someone and don't know how to avoid it or get out of the trap then the information can be very valuable. Recognizing when you are not in control of your own desires is the first step to changing the situation. This book can help you to understand what is happening and why you feel the way you do and then it goes one step further in showing you how you can change the situation.
The bottom line is that everyone should know these techniques not only so that they can recognize when they are being manipulated and can do something about it, but also so they can tell when strong feelings are not what they seem but are the result of some basic principle such as the law of association or reciprocal affection or something similar. How to make a good impression, how to change a bad one, how to stop being manipulated, how to regain control of your life, how to handle the problems of life, how to examine your feelings about someone and know if you really feel positive (or negative) about them or if it is just the normal reaction to various stimuli, it is all pretty much here in this book. If there were a great book that gave an overview of these principles this one is it. There are other great books that deal with one or two of these topics in greater detail, but none that I have read that expose you to the whole gamut of psychological principles with persuading, motivating, or getting others to at least accept your opinion as valid. A must on the bookshelf of anyone but the most recalcitrant hermit. |
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