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The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate [AUDIOBOOK] [UNABRIDGED] (Audio CD)
by Gary D. Chapman (Narrator)
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Marriage, Relationship, Personal improvement, Life guide |
| Market price: ¥ 288.00
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¥ 278.00
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| MSL Pointer Review:
Simply a masterpiece on the secrets of a happy married life. Highly recommended to all the couples, people getting married and people in a relationship. |
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Rebecca B. (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
This book has made such a difference in my marriage. We've been married 10 years and have struggled through most of it to really connect with each other. We didn't know it but we speak different love languages. Other reviewers have said that this book is too simplistic and stupid but if the ideas in this book were so simple and common sense, then why would SO many people say it was life-changing? If giving and receiving love in ways we both appreciate and understand were so easy, I'm sure the divorce rate would be much lower! Yes, the concepts in this book are simple, but believe me, that doesn't mean they are worthless. This book has helped me understand the way my husband needs me to show love is different than the way that comes naturally for me and vice versa. In just a few short weeks things are dramatically different in my house and we both are finally FEELING the love the other has tried in vain to show for 10 years. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
This is simply one of the best relationship books ever written. Both my wife and I read the book and completed the action items, and it has helped our marriage immensely. Chapman's insight into how to keep your partner's "love tank" full is innovative and practical. The book is written in easy to read chapters, and Chapman cites his work with other couples to illustrate specific points. By doing so, he gives the reader a "real world" examples of how understanding your partner's love language will strengthen your relationship and open communication. The reader can easily relate to these examples and identify with their challenges, and subsequent victories. My wife and I recommend this book to every couple we know, whether their relationship is good, bad or other. |
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Gerri Baxter (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
When I saw this book as a gift at my recent wedding, I groaned, thinking that it was some other religious book guaranteed to send me off the deep end, and I was dreading my husband's reaction, too.
Boy, was I wrong.
This book helped us get our marriage off on the right foot, and we probably will be able to stay in step the entire way. Fortunately, we're both physical touch people, and by knowing that bit of information, we have been able to enhance our love by many, many hugs, backrubs, footrubs, and snuggles throughout every day. My husband even jokes about having a huggle quotient.
We've been married almost 8 months now, and we're just as happy as when we decided to get married. (Whirlwind courtship - we met online, a week later met in person, got engaged two days later, and were married less than 2 months after first meeting online.)
This book, and the ideas in it, has really helped us both stay focused on each other. If you want your marriage to succeed, get this book. If you know someone is getting married, give them this book as a wedding gift. If you know someone is having trouble in their marriage, slip them this book. So many things can be solved by acting/talking to the partner's preference instead of at cross-grain. Amazing how a little time and attention can go so very, very far. |
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T. Sparfeld (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
Okay, first things first. I am in a relationship (and it's going great), not married, and I was not very interested in reading this book at first. After reading it with my girlfriend, however, I now must say that I am hooked on the five love languages.
Chapman's thesis is that people express their love to each other in five different ways. Depending on how they were raised/their natural nature, people seem to prefer expressing love (and having love expressed to them) in five different ways:
1. Words of affirmation (can include written words)
2. Quality time (NOT watching movies)
3. Gifts (not necessarily expensive)
4. Acts of service (house chores, doing services)
5. Physical touch (not necessarily sex)
Chapman's keys to success are easy: figure out what your partner/spouse's love language is, "speak" that language to them, and give them opportunities to speak your love language back to you.
Here are some good things about The 5LL: after reading it with my girlfriend, I found that it has worked for me. I know how to better express love to her and she to me. We both feel like our relationship is stronger. I also enjoy how Chapman points out that the love languages can also be applied to friends - one close friend of mine prefers gifts, and I know how to express my appreciation to them.
Now, book will certainly face its share of criticism. Because the message is so simple, I feel the book is a little repetitive. After awhile, I became tired of reading phrases like "emotional love tank" too much, and I felt Chapman repeated himself or overexplained himself too much. I also think readers might want to take the helpful quiz at the back of the book before starting to determine their love language.
I think the overwhelming majority of people will find this book to be helpful in their lives, and I am glad I read it. |
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E. Suter (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
The book's premise is very common sense, yet it is something we all too often don't stop to think about. The book is religion based, but even for those that are not religious, it is a good concept. And while the author does refer to religious passages, it isn't shoved down your throat like many books have a way of doing.
The chapter I felt was most useful, and I wish I had read during my first marriage was "Loving the unlovely". This is such a hard concept, but really stresses how our own actions can dramatically change an unhappy situation, even if the other party isn't interested in helping. I don't know if it would have saved my first marriage. But I fully intend to make sure my new husband's love tank is kept on full at all times and I really believe this book gave me a much better understanding of how to do this. |
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Robert Steele (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
I freely confess to being what Peter Drucker calls a "mono-maniac," which is a person who has reached a point in life where one really big issue drives them and all that they do. As I think back on a life as a Marine Corps infantry officer and a clandestine case officer (spy), I really wish that stuff like this was covered at every life stage - from Family Life in high school to Life 101 in college to "tradeoffs and compromises" in Officer Candidate School and at The Farm.
As someone who is at the top of their professional game, and with what may well be one of the lowest "social IQS" around, I absolutely recommend this book, and its children-oriented companion, as gifts for those you care about how might be, like me, too focused on the "hard" world and not paying enough attention on the home front.
It is a simple formula, easy to understand, easy to apply, and the book is a "soft" equivalent of a "2 x 4" hit on the head of a jackass - once the message is received, I think it does have some positive effect.
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
This book is absolutely essential in any married individual’s library and life. It helps you understand that what might be important to you in expressing love towards another is not always understood as equally important by the other individual. But, that each individuals attempts are absolutely valid and must be valued. This books ideas caused numerous flashbacks of my childhood; how I was taught what "love" meant in Dad's language, but never in Mom's language. It unlocked the mystery of what "love" truly is to each unique individual and how important it is to speak your loved one's love language. Its a strange title, and maybe some think its corny, but it is a must read for anyone serious about keeping their marriage alive and well.
This is a super-useful and accessible tool in helping couples speak the "language" of love that their spouse or significant other will understand. Just as you can't communicate effectively, if at all, with someone who doesn't speak your verbal/written language, the author contends that it is difficult/impossible to understand the wishes, desires and needs of your mate if you can't speak his/her language. Intuitively, this makes sense and the author clearly reveals the 5 love languages; how to recognize the 'lovespeak' of your mate and most importantly how to speak his/her love language. A real door-opener for much better understanding and real things that you can DO to improve what for most people is a critically important relationship. The author truly cares about and believes in the importance of his subject and it shows! |
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Emil Shuffhausen (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
Here in the Shuffhausen house, we've enjoyed marital bliss for nearly 21 years, and we can both say that this book by Gary Chapman has done much to assist us in understanding the many different (and sometimes subtle) ways in which we express our love for each other.
This book could help couples see how to better receive and give love. Some men, for example, may not verbally express their love to their wives, but they feel it deeply and express it in other ways, such as generosity, providing, serving, and of course, physically. Men can learn how to better express love verbally, and women can learn how to better receive and accept the other ways in which men express their genuine love. Likewise, women may show their love in many other ways besides physically, and husbands learn how to better recognize and appreciate these expressions.
Again, this book is a great source of information and inspiration, and can serve as a useful springboard for further and better conversation between husbands and wives. I recommend this, not only for married couples, but for couples contemplating marriage. It can go a long way towards alleviating sources of stress and confusion in a marriage relationship.
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Lewis Flagg (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
I read this with my wife on the recommendation of a good friend. We have been married 34 years, and we wish we had read it earlier. We already had a strong relationship, but the framework for communicating love that Chapman lays out would be very helpful at any stage.
Chapman explains what has been documented elsewhere (recently in National Geographic for one) that being "in love" is physiologically similar to being schizophrenic and is no basis for a lasting relationship (hello, Hollywood). He postulates that most people want to have lasting loving relationships but are unaware that different people communicate and comprehend love differently. He develops a model for communicating love based in theory and practice and illustrates it with delightful anecdotes from his practice. |
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C. Kovacik (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-26 00:00>
This book absolutely saved my marriage. It helped us both understand each others love languages and why my husband and I had drifted apart. The very next day after we had both read the book, there was a huge improvement. Just the week before we received it, we were getting ready to file for divorce, I was packing my things and preparing to move out. It made that much of a difference in how we communicate with each other and understand each other. It's a must read! |
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