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The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Paperback)
by Gary Chapman
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Marriage, Relationship, Personal improvement, Life guide |
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Simply a masterpiece on the secrets of a happy married life. Highly recommended to all the couples, people getting married and people in a relationship. |
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Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Northfield Publishing; Reissue edition
Pub. in: June, 1995
ISBN: 1881273156
Pages: 204
Measurements: 9.2 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
Origin of product: USA
Order code: BA00342
Other information: Reissue edition
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Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. Dr. Chapman says people feel most loved in a marriage in one of five ways: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Though we have a primary love language, we can learn a second language so that our spouse's needs are met. It's all about giving a little here and there, and accepting that our spouse's preferred channel may be different from ours.
With over 20 years experience as a marriage counselor, Dr. Chapman has done the research - in speaking with professionals such as psychiatrists and authors, examining his own life and the lives of people he coaches, and revealing cultural and historical examples of how people relate to each other - to support and describe each of the five love languages. Throughout the book, there is a theme that readers really like: "keeping the love tank full" as a basic, essential element of maintaining a healthy relationship. Visualizing the very real need to be loved, appreciated and wanted by our partner as a tank that needs to be filled is a great way to emphasize the importance of fulfilling that need. This is a fun, simple and easy-to-read book that thoroughly addresses how to give and receive love in a way that is enriching and enlivening.
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Married couple and will-be-married individuals.
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Dr. Gary Chapman is a well-known marriage counselor and director of marriage seminars. He is also a pastor in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where he has served for over 25 years. He is the best-selling author of The Five Love Languages, which has topped the bestseller charts for years, and has sold over 825,000 copies. He also wrote Loving Solutions, which is a 1999 Gold Medallion Book Award recipient. His other releases include The Other Side of Love, Five Signs of a Loving Family, Toward a Growing Marriage, and Hope for the Separated. He has co-authored The Five Love Languages of Children and Parenting Your Adult Child with Dr. Ross Campbell.
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From Publisher
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
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Rebecca B. (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-30 00:00>
This book has made such a difference in my marriage. We've been married 10 years and have struggled through most of it to really connect with each other. We didn't know it but we speak different love languages. Other reviewers have said that this book is too simplistic and stupid but if the ideas in this book were so simple and common sense, then why would SO many people say it was life-changing? If giving and receiving love in ways we both appreciate and understand were so easy, I'm sure the divorce rate would be much lower! Yes, the concepts in this book are simple, but believe me, that doesn't mean they are worthless. This book has helped me understand the way my husband needs me to show love is different than the way that comes naturally for me and vice versa. In just a few short weeks things are dramatically different in my house and we both are finally FEELING the love the other has tried in vain to show for 10 years. |
A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-30 00:00>
This is simply one of the best relationship books ever written. Both my wife and I read the book and completed the action items, and it has helped our marriage immensely. Chapman's insight into how to keep your partner's "love tank" full is innovative and practical. The book is written in easy to read chapters, and Chapman cites his work with other couples to illustrate specific points. By doing so, he gives the reader a "real world" examples of how understanding your partner's love language will strengthen your relationship and open communication. The reader can easily relate to these examples and identify with their challenges, and subsequent victories. My wife and I recommend this book to every couple we know, whether their relationship is good, bad or other. |
Gerri Baxter (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-30 00:00>
When I saw this book as a gift at my recent wedding, I groaned, thinking that it was some other religious book guaranteed to send me off the deep end, and I was dreading my husband's reaction, too.
Boy, was I wrong.
This book helped us get our marriage off on the right foot, and we probably will be able to stay in step the entire way. Fortunately, we're both physical touch people, and by knowing that bit of information, we have been able to enhance our love by many, many hugs, backrubs, footrubs, and snuggles throughout every day. My husband even jokes about having a huggle quotient.
We've been married almost 8 months now, and we're just as happy as when we decided to get married. (Whirlwind courtship - we met online, a week later met in person, got engaged two days later, and were married less than 2 months after first meeting online.)
This book, and the ideas in it, has really helped us both stay focused on each other. If you want your marriage to succeed, get this book. If you know someone is getting married, give them this book as a wedding gift. If you know someone is having trouble in their marriage, slip them this book. So many things can be solved by acting/talking to the partner's preference instead of at cross-grain. Amazing how a little time and attention can go so very, very far. |
T. Sparfeld (MSL quote), USA
<2006-12-30 00:00>
Okay, first things first. I am in a relationship (and it's going great), not married, and I was not very interested in reading this book at first. After reading it with my girlfriend, however, I now must say that I am hooked on the five love languages.
Chapman's thesis is that people express their love to each other in five different ways. Depending on how they were raised/their natural nature, people seem to prefer expressing love (and having love expressed to them) in five different ways:
1. Words of affirmation (can include written words)
2. Quality time (NOT watching movies)
3. Gifts (not necessarily expensive)
4. Acts of service (house chores, doing services)
5. Physical touch (not necessarily sex)
Chapman's keys to success are easy: figure out what your partner/spouse's love language is, "speak" that language to them, and give them opportunities to speak your love language back to you.
Here are some good things about The 5LL: after reading it with my girlfriend, I found that it has worked for me. I know how to better express love to her and she to me. We both feel like our relationship is stronger. I also enjoy how Chapman points out that the love languages can also be applied to friends - one close friend of mine prefers gifts, and I know how to express my appreciation to them.
Now, book will certainly face its share of criticism. Because the message is so simple, I feel the book is a little repetitive. After awhile, I became tired of reading phrases like "emotional love tank" too much, and I felt Chapman repeated himself or overexplained himself too much. I also think readers might want to take the helpful quiz at the back of the book before starting to determine their love language.
I think the overwhelming majority of people will find this book to be helpful in their lives, and I am glad I read it. |
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