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Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship (平装)
by Joshua Harris
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Teens, Romantic relationship, Christian |
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Boy Meets Girl presents an inspiring, practical example for readers wanting to pursue the possibility of marriage with someone they may be serious about.
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Joshua Harris has grown in both wisdom and maturity between the time I Kissed Dating Goodbye was published and Boy Meets Girl was published. The first book had some valid points; you should be friends with someone before you date them, you should only date someone you might want to eventually marry, etc. However, much of the book provides very little insight for people who have always dated (or courted) from a Biblical perspective. I didn't enjoy reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye very much and got very little out of it. It seemed to me that the underlying message of the book was that if you "date" and don't "court" your wrong.However, Boy Meets Girl is different. Realizing the mistakes of his first book, Harris has written something more useful and practical. To begin with, Harris no longer makes a distinction between "dating" and "courting" as he did in IKDG. Secondly, Harris emphasizes that there is no set pattern, guidelines, or rules to follow to meet and date/court your future mate; God never does something the same way twice. Finally, and probably most importantly, Harris more clearly illustrates than he did in IKDG that as people we cannot look to another person to complete us. Husbands and wives can only complement each other, they can't complete each other, only Jesus can do that. The book also has a lot of useful hints and a few of the stories are quite amazing. A much better book than I Kissed Dating Goodbye .
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Josh Harris' books (Boy Meets Girl and I Kissed Dating Goodbye) have truly been inspired by God. Evidence that they "work" is seen in Josh's love and devotion to Sharon (his wife). I pray to someday have a relationship as fulfilling as theirs. As a Christian girl who lost her virginity at 18, and became pregnant, married, divorced, and a single mother this year at age 19, I needed a new, fresh perspective on sex. It was obvious that the world's ideas were wrong... very wrong. The chapters on purity and overcoming past sins have helped me to forgive myself, and give me something to look forward to in the future. I wish I'd read these books in highschool. So far, I've bought 2 more copies of Boy Meets Girl, and 3 copies of I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I'm lending them out to everyone i can think of, including my ex-husband. Buy the books, Read the books, and Share the books. Stop "dating" and experience the sheer joy of trusting in the Lord.
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Cade Foster (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Mr. Harris is obviously a sincere Christian and a gifted writer. What impresses me the most about this book is his willingness to acknowledge that yes, people make mistakes, that no mistake is irredeemable in the eyes of God, and that life and the Lord often throws us curves we do not expect. In this respect, he's a welcome relief from what I call the Do It My Way writers such as Wendy Shalit and Danielle Crittenden. Most of his practical advice (restricting physical contact, being answerable to others, etc.) is excellent.
But... I still have a few issues with this book. I'm a 31-year-old Christian, happily married for the past decade to another Christian. As a 10-year "veteran" I'd like to say that Mr. Harris has a definite tendency to romanticize marriage. Yes, it is wonderful, but no matter how strong one's faith in God is, there will be in-law trouble, fights over who takes out the trash, issues with money, illness, and just about everything else. That's not to say that overcoming these problems is not one of life's greatest rewards--it is. But I wish he'd dealt a bit more with the practical issues that two people need to sort out before marriage. It's one thing to delay physical and emotional intimacy until you're ready for it, but if you get married to someone without discussing finances, caring for aging parents, child-rearing, and so forth, you are setting yourself up for a good deal more trouble than if you got carried away kissing. Also, and I suspect this is due to his youth, he doesn't seem to recognize that one needs a certain richness of life experience before one can be ready to choose a spouse. I'm not talking about sin here - just being open to the experiences God has to give us.
With this said, I must add that Mr. Harris displays an impressive amount of maturity for his age, and I wish him and his bride all the best.
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Randy Hofbauer (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
When I first got this book (I ordered it with its prequel, I Kissed Dating Goodbye from Amazon a week ago) I had already gone through IKDG and was not looking forward to it (see my review on I Kissed Dating Goodbye) because I got nothing out of I Kissed Dating Goodbye. My friends really loved it and everyone claimed it to be better than the first, so instead of just dropping it in my endless drawer of textbooks, I read it. I must say, I really liked this book, it was really weird. No one I know ever expected me to be reading something like this, they assume my maturity is strong enough by now anyway, but I needed something to tell me if I'm doing this whole waiting thing right. To my surprise, I wasn't put down when I read it. It had nothing but good things to say, and could only reassure if not teach. This book did not really teach me anything new (though it is very informative), but assured me of this: God can have me perfectly ready for a relationship in every way, ultimately, as Josh says, wisdom with romance, and still choose for me to remain single because before He brings the woman of my dreams into my life, He wants want me to fulfill His Will first. Until I do that and am fully content in Him and serving Him first and just letting go of worrying for her, then I can meet her. Hey, makes sense! Why do you think so many couples meet when they least expect it?
Courtship is so misunderstood nowadays, and I'm thankful that I got my head on straight this past year in college about it, that God gave me 2 years after a harsh breakup to train me. I read this book to test myself and now that I'm fully trained, all I need to accomplish is to be patient and grow content in Him.
This was always a hard thing for me to accept before, I haven't dated in 2 years and chose not to, but now all my friends are either courting, engaged or married. This does not make it easier, and when I got the book in the mail and saw this picture of an incredibly beautiful woman on the front cover, it didn't make me feel a whole lot sure of myself. I wanted that companion to share Christ with, but she just wasn't there. I had no choice, I couldn't feel worse, so I read it. Needless to say, the pages turn so fast that you forget about the cover. As I said before, I didn't learn anything new, but I've been trained by God for the past 2 years now to learn all I need to know for now. But this book made me feel so secure in being single that when that time does come around and that special girl is brought into my life, I can smile with joy and praise the Lord...along with her! If you're not sure about courtship, read this book, especially if you're out of highschool. And unlike the first book IKDG, I agreed with a whole lot more stuff in this one, it seems that Josh Harris has grown in the Lord quite a bit since the last book, and that makes me trust his teaching much more, because after the first book, I did lose much respect for him. It is an important book for late teens and early 20 somethings to read, and a blessing from God that it is available to us. What it won't teach you, it will only strengthen. THANKS JOSH!!!
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Chris Angel (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I have never read any of Josh Harris's books before, but I was really impressed with his new book Boy Meets Girl. My youth pastor and his fianc read the book together and suggested that my girlfriend and I read it together as well. Josh's book taught me a lot about dating compared to courting, but the main idea to me was not about finding the right girl. The book was really about turning aside a lot of outside interference and focusing on an intimate relationship with God. From that relationship with God then is when we can start praying about that special someone. A lot of things that were laid out in the book seemed to hit me in the heart for some reason, and that's when I knew that this guy was for real with what he talked about. There were a lot of things that took place in the book that my girlfriend and I agreed with, but also there were a few things that we disagreed with. We took the things we disagreed with and tried to consider what it would have been like when we started dating if we could have done the things that Josh did. Of course no two couples are exactly the same and that's what makes all of us unique.
It really hit me to read about other Christian couples that were going through the exact same stuff as what I was going through. I always thought that it was just us. Each individual story about Josh's friends is very good. It's good to see what goes on in other Christian relationships and to see how they confront their lives. To all of the people that read this review I very highly recommend the book Boy Meets Girl by Josh Harris. |
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Holt (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I never read Josh Harris's first book because the idea of shunning dating sounded ridiculous to me. I still do not know exactly what Mr. Harris's main idea of that book was, but I know that this book is excellent. He addresses some touchy subjects about dating without totally scaring me. At first, the idea of courtship sounded old-fashioned and out-of-date, but then I realized that he was offering not as much an alternative to dating as a new perspective on it. He sets this new form of dating apart from what we typically view as dating by calling it courtship. But really, this book isn't about dating (or courtship) as much as all the reviews and even its title suggest. This book is about a healthy relationship with God. Mr. Harris stresses the importance of God in each person's life, especially as people become couples. I'd heard all the gimmicks about God-centered relationships before, and even bought into them to an extent, but this book explained clearly to my heart as well as my mind what things I need to consider about myself and others before starting any kind of dating or courtship relationship. |
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Carl Redman (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Although Joshua Harris is a little more conservative than I, the theme of this book is outstanding. In sum, Harris proclaims that the intended relationship for a man and woman is marriage, and that this union should be God-blessed, God-honoring, and God-centered. As Harris says,
"A godly marriage is a man and a woman, side by side in the hand of God's providence, gazing up to Him." Beautiful.
Harris blends very interesting love stories with topics that are vital for people thinking about marriage. These include dating, communications, man and woman's role, sex, past relationships, community involvement in the relationship, and ten questions to ask before you get married. One major point that Harris weaves throughout the book is that marriage should be the goal in the relationship, not just "dating to date."
Some of what Harris says might sound shockingly conservative. Harris waited until his wedding day to kiss his bride. But Harris makes a point to say that this may not be for everyone. What is important is that you make rules and guidelines to follow so that in your relationship you are not overcome with lust.
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
It should come as no surprise to those who have read Joshua Harris' first book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, that Boy Meets Girl would be filled with sound, biblical advice and stories that can relate to life. Joshua Harris has once again delivered a book on a topic sorely needed by the Christian singles of this world. As an 18 year old who had been a Christian for two months, I purchased I Kissed Dating Goodbye, unsure of where it would lead me. I knew my way of doing things was about to be challenged, but I didn't realize just how much. As I dove into the book, I was convicted in so many ways. God used this to really shape me and my understanding of how He wants me to be in relation to this important area of my life. As someone who has read many of these Christian relationship books, I can tell you that there are some good ones out there, but IKDG definitely had the biggest impact on me. However, as I continued to pray over the biblical truths that Harris focused on and how they pertained to my individual life, I (along with thousands others) had to wonder one thing - What about when I "do" find someone who I'd like to pursue a relationship with? Then what? The answer has arrived. Joshua Harris uses Boy Meets Girl to express how God has shown him that it is the state of our heart that matters most, and not legalistic boundaries. Though the book just arrived in my mailbox yesterday, I have torn right through it and been pouring over the scripture referenced that addresses so many pertinent issues. If you loved I Kissed Dating Goodbye, get ready for Boy Meets Girl. Harris has so beautifully expressed the way that God has worked in his life and heart, and this manifestation is definitely something that our generation can use. |
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Sarah (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
For many women who have been taught "the rules" by their friends and sisters, it's refreshing to hear of guy who did not have to be lured into marriage. It's exciting to think of the possibility there are men out there who really do want to get to know a woman as a true friend.
Myself being a new believer, I've spent lots of time searching for books on how exactly this dating thing works as a christian. Isn't the point of dating to see if you're compatible in all areas before deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone? This book gave me the confidence to really know I'm able to make my own choice about being sexually intimate with someone and stick with it. As odd as it sounds, young women are almost made to feel ashamed these days if they're not sexually active.
I loved also the reassurance Josh gave about if you expect to be treated like a lady, if you demand to be treated like a lady, you will be. And the man you're with will continue to treat you like one until the day he passes from this earth. Too many times I've found myself settle in the past for a relationship that didn't make me happy, but I wasn't being abused so how could it be that bad? Now I realize the focus of my relationship was way off.
I am a little concerned about how many of the couples in the book only 'courted' for six months to a year before becoming engaged and married. As wonderful as it is to find someone so quickly, most people don't and it gave me a false sense of hope for a few days of "if I follow these rules I can get a guy to marry me within a year!" It took awhile longer before I snapped out of that thinking.
All in all, it is a book I feel every religious young woman should read before heading into the dating world. It is not the bible, you dont need to follow it's every word, but it provides a good general guide to forming your own thoughts about dating. For me personally, I've decided that before I date anyone, I must know them well enough as a friend and christian to sit back and go "now I wonder if we would be a good match for husband and wife."
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Clayton (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I read this while struggling with the subject of why I was still single. I have the mindset that a life of singleness is much better than a life of misery where you are marriage to the wrong one and unhappy; however, I was still struggling just a bit with impatience. Josh was very honest in the way he approached everything. It was inspiring to read his story and know it could happen for me. When I was 16, I committed myself to purity and saying I would never even kiss until my wedding day. As a woman of 22, I can still say I have kept that promise. The book encouraged me to keep that goal. I read that book at the perfect time in my life and it really encouraged me to remember that the best things in life are worth waiting for.
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