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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night (平装)
by Elizabeth Pantley
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Truly kind and gentle methods advocated, this book presents a humane solution to sleeplessness! |
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Ferraro (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
"... then read each page of this book, and re-read them as you may need to do - as I had to when I was so sleep-deprived with my second child. I was determined not to get into the habit/the routine of all night nursing that I did with my daughter until she was 15 months old! I did not have any faith in the theories and the books that were out there about babies and sleep and figured that I would just work it out on my own."
I picked this book up on a whim when I saw it as I was leaving a store. I got into the car and started reading. My husband drove the car and my four month old slept. I realized that I (we - my husband and I) needed to get to work immediately; I was ready becasue I was tired. I worked and worked and tried the techniques every day. It is hard work, but that is what parenting is! It takes patience and hope - especially when you are going on a few hours of broken sleep. With assistance from my husband, we helped our little guy sleep for longer periods of time throughout the night, until I eventually weaned him... it took months, however, I knew it would not last forever and I knew everything would be okay.
Just reading Ms. Pantley's words calmed me. It was a wonderful guide. Working to help the baby sleep so I could sleep was a journey - just as parenting is. I am proud to say that I have two happy, healthy children - 2 1/2 and five years old! It all worked out! Yes- they sometimes come into our bed in the middle of the night, but so do all of the kids I know who cried for hours and hours during their infancy! I embrace these times, because I realize that our children will only need us in this way for such a short time.
Obviously, the sooner you can start a "program" the better. Babies cry louder as they get older and habits are obviously harder to break as they grow older! Good Luck! |
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C. Scanner (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Hurray, my daughter finally learned how to sleep! It took us two months and it was not easy, but without tears and in a very gentle and loving way. I've read The No-Cry Sleep Solution when Lea was 7 months and waking 8-10 times a night, more than every hour. First I just picked some ideas from the book, she responded fast and the night awakenings became shorter each but not less often. It took us two months, but I have to admit that we had to stop to apply this method 3 times for about one week each time, 2 times because of teething and once as I got sick. I was amazed to find out that stopping and going back to the old habits of nursing all night long for one week was not setting us back to the starting point. As soon as the teeth were through we could continue the effort where we stopped. But it took us a long time and at the end I got very desparate and decided to apply more ideas from the book even the ones which I did not like in the beginning. And then the miracle happened!
I'm so thankful for this book and recommend it to everyone!
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Tracy (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I love this book! It helped me have compassion for my children through the sleepless nights by showing me why they were awake. It taught me patience by showing me how things will change. It gave me courage to slowly change things and be okay with the way things are.
It has worked for both of my very different children. For my oldest, it allowed us to slowly transition her out of our bed and into her own bed compassionately. It taught us that some people (adults and children alike) need long periods of time to wind down before falling asleep. It reminded me of how lonely it can be to be awake and in bed alone while the rest of the family is elsewhere. She now happily falls asleep in her own bed, in her own room.
For my youngest, The No-Cry Sleep Solution allowed us to start good, consistent, routines from the very beginning. It helped us set up sleep associations in addition to breastfeeding even though we were co-sleeping. When my youngest was ready to transition to his own bed, he did it easily. He now falls asleep in his own bed without a fuss.
We never did the sleep logs. We did love the suggestion to try one new idea and then wait 10 days before evaluating it for success. Before The No-Cry Sleep Solution we would try something for a couple of nights, decide it didn't work, and try something new before the first change even had a chance to take effect. By reviewing each change in our routine only once per 10 days (unless it was a real mess), we learned to patiently watch our children grow and learn.
I recommend this book to every friend who complains they have a child who is not sleeping well. |
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Natasha Grossman (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I've never understood how something that is practiced in most parts of the world and by virtually every indigenous culture could be wrong. Yet, our western culture tells us that we should sleep far from our babies and that they should be taught how to sleep independently from us from the day they are born. This has never seemed natural to me. When did you last see a raccoon put her babies in a neighboring tree, or watch your family pet set up a sleeping area for her puppies or kittens on the other side of the house from her own?
Given this lack of understanding, by my own culture, for what seems to be the most natural and humane way of creating a sense of safety and connection for our children, I've never been able to figure out how children make the natural transition from requiring help from their parents to sleep, to sleeping independently. I have traveled all over the world and have never met and adult who still sleeps with his/her parents, so I supposed there was a way that this all worked out - but I could never uncover the mystery of this transition on my own.
Frustrated by all of the parenting books that seemed to fly in the face of the natural connection between mother and child - and instead focus on how we can make sure that parents get enough sleep by training our children to do what is most convenient for us - I was thrilled to find The No-Cry Sleep Solution.
Finally, a book that respects the needs of the child, and the relationship between children and parents, The No-Cry Sleep Solutions offers gentle, respectful and loving methods for teaching our children to sleep independently. It is honest in the need for commitment on the parents' part to give the child the time necessary to make this important transition, while offering many ideas for how to make this transition as smooth as possible.
I am grateful for this book and for its' focus on the needs of the child while understanding the desires of parents. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
There is no one-size-fits-all solution to sleep problems, and if someone tells you there is - run the other way. Unfortunatley, what DOES exist is a whole lot of guilt.
If your top priority is sleeping through the night and you are willing to let the baby cry it out, many will call you a monster - despite the fact that there is absolutely NO evidence that this is harmful. Usually, the guilt-mongerers cite "maternal instinct" as a clear indicator that letting a baby cry is evil. They'll refer to adult emotions("How would you feel, abandoned in a dark room, crying your eyes out, and no one comes?") as though babies are little adults. (My kids have tried crying to get M&Ms for breakfast. I let them cry that one out, too.) Ask a mom of three or four kids whether her instincts still tell her to instantly pick up a crying baby, and you'll see how those "instincts" are modified by experience. There IS plenty of evidence that the cry-it-out method will get babies sleeping through the night.
However, what if you simply don't want to let your baby cry - not necessarily because you believe it will ruin them for life, but because you just find it too unpleasant? There are plenty of people on the other side who will insist that you're a pathetic wimp who doesn't deserve to BE a parent because you're a spineless coward who is unwilling to suffer a little for your child's long-term well-being - as if parenthood were boot camp and the fate of the western world depends on your being able to "tough it out." Just plain silly.
Every parent will do what they have to do. If the method in this book is more palatable, by all means, use it. It has a good chance of working. If it doesn't work and sleep deprivation has become unbearable, you can still Ferberize later, but only if it doesn't feel like total torture. The point is, you're in control. There is no need to feel guilty about your choices! |
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Michelle Dimarzio (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
This book was a life-saver--but not because my baby slept throught the night. The author's calming, pro-mom, supportive style and the variety of ideas and techniques was just what this first-time tired mom needed. I read this book with another book (of the cry-it-out variety) when my baby girl was 6 mos old bc I was desperate. In the end, I used many of her ideas, but that didn't lead to my baby sleeping through the night right away, rather it helped me create a relaxing routine and better frame of mind that helped me deal with my baby's night awakenings until she gradually stopped waking at night (from 5-6x a night at 6 mos, 1x at 12 months and 0x when she was fully weaned at 14 months). Pantly seemed to imply that using her method would mean no crying at all, but that wasn't the case. My baby would cry whether we picked her up, rocked her or not if she was really tired, so we did let her "cry-it-out" for short amounts of time bc we knew she would fall asleep. We didn't do it to force her to sleep, she just didn't like to fall asleep on us. Read several books and TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT. Like I said, the biggest value of this book was it gave voice to a mom's intuition as well as helpful suggestions. |
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D. Kelley (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Mothers--no matter how many people around you are telling you to "just let him cry" Don't Do It. Your instincts and your gut response to it are right! You don't have to, and finally here is someone who can show you the other way!
I read through the No Cry Sleep Solution's introduction in tears saying "this is me! this is us!" over and over again. I nearlly sobbed with relief that finally I had found a loving and gentle way to help my little son. I also made my husband read the parts about cio, and finally someone was able to get through to him.
I am surrounded by pressure to just let my son cry, and even in online communities where I post the responses from other moms are about 50/50, with half again pushing cio and the other half with no real solutions. My husband was practicing cio while I was working at night, even though I hated it and believe deeply it is wrong and against nature. His response was always that his coworkers and friends said it worked for them, and there was no other concrete method that had step by step instructions for any kind of "non cry" way. I knew that my son was learning sleepy time was a scary, awful thing. I knew that I needed to somehow teach him that sleep was safe and peaceful, but I could not find anyone who could tell me how to do that, until I found this book.
I read about this book online Monday night, bought the book and half read it on Tuesday (when I also started my logs), finished the book Wednesday and built my sleep plan. Now instead of feeling sick every night when I know my son is going to bed, I feel at complete peace. This plan is so simple even my detail challenged husband feels confident enough to do it on his own when I'm not there (as long as I do all the work and build it for him - fine with me!). The author has saved my son many nights of pain, and saved me my peace of heart and mind. I can't wait to share my progress.
I knew something like this was out there, I just had to find it. Thank God I have. |
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Janette (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
Before I found this book, I was a nursing mom to an 8 month old who woke up 10+ times a night. The frequent night waking was really starting to get to me, and I could tell that it was also taking a toll on my daughter.
After I read the book, I immediately put into practice many of the suggestions described in the book. We noticed an immediate reduction in her night wakings. Then, we hit many snags such as several colds, teething, growth spurts etc. I was almost ready to give up! But, I kept with it, and now, my daughter is sleeping through the night. Her naps have also improved from two 20-30 min naps, to two 75+ minute naps. I can tell that my daughter feels so much better, and so do I.
This book is great because it offers many suggestions to try. It is not a cookie cutter approach, because you tailor the ideas to your baby and your life. Elizabeth offers suggestions to help crib sleepers, AND also co-sleepers. She describes how she was able to get her son to sleep through, while continuing to co-sleep and breastfeed. It is so refreshing to read a "sleep book" by someone who has been in the depths of sleep deprivation. She knows what she is talking about, and what you are going through, because she's been there herself.
Elizabeth's gentle methods and suggestions are not a quick fix. It will take some time, but the results are well worth the patience. There is no need to let your baby cry it out.
The best part about this book is the hope that Elizabeth offers. When you are sleep deprived and getting up every hour or so, everything seems bleak. Elizabeth book is filled with hope and success stories. Your baby WILL sleep through the night!
Thank you Elizabeth! You have given me back my sanity and my life! |
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Maureen Oswald (MSL quote), UK
<2007-02-12 00:00>
The No-Cry-Sleep Solution is the only book you will ever need to read about sleep. I have a whole bookshelf of baby books, and now on my second baby, the only one I have opened is the No-Cry Sleep Solution! It is the only book I recommend to my friends and we all agree that we just felt better for reading it. I believe so strongly that little babies should not be left to cry to learn to sleep and the No-Cry Sleep Solution is packed full of ideas to try when helping your baby to sleep. This book gives you encouragement to keep trying and helps you to believe that you are doing the right thing and that your baby WILL sleep. It's OK to go back a step, to rely on whatever you know works and then try again the next day. So often, when reading many other baby manuals, I felt guilty; I had always picked up my babies, fed them to sleep, co-slept with them, done all the things you weren't supposed to do, and most of all I hadn't "taught them to sleep". I felt that what I had done was going to torture my poor children for years to come! When I read this book, all those feelings went away. I read it from cover to cover, and without even doing anything, I just "felt better"... I knew my babies would sleep one day, and that I could help them to get there, without leaving them to cry. It might take a little while, but it will happen, and I feel so proud that I didn't leave either of my little ones alone, crying in their cot. I really can't recommend this book highly enough, Elizabeth Pantley writes from the heart for all those sleep-deprived mothers out there. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I think this book has many strong points, and among them are the support it gives to Attachment Parents who long for a full night's sleep. When I first heard about AP, I thought it meant you had to be a slave to your child and do whatever the child wanted. Pantley shows that it's the parents' responsibility to help the child learn to sleep and offers some methods to make this happen. She also points out how necessary it is for everyone in the family to get sleep, which many APs might feel relieved to hear. It requires patience, yes, and I actually think it will work better if you co-sleep (for a variety of reasons, we don't). We tried a number of her suggestions and many of them worked well and we still use them (bedtime routine, looking for signs of tiredness, helping baby learn ways to self-soothe), so I really think this book is useful. But I'll confess: we did - and do - end up dealing with some "protest crying" for a couple of minutes at bedtime and during night wakings, mostly because I wasn't patient enough to stay with the techniques until we got to "no-cry." But the reason I think these crying sessions are short, amangeable and infrequent was probably because we had managed to work in a number of Pantley's strategies before resorting to modified CIO.
One final point: People have asked if Pantley's book "makes me feel guilty" because we occasionally let our child cry? No. I understand why she says what she says, and before I got to the point where I felt I had do CIO, I felt the same way. People who blame Pantley for making them feel bad about choices they make should remember one of her main points, which is that a parent ultimately knows what's best and what his/her baby can handle, and the suggestions and validation she offers are for those parents for whom crying, for whatever reason, is not an option. |
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