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How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (平装)
by Dale Carnegie
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
This book is loaded with common sense, which unfortunately today is such an uncommon thing. If you read this book in its entirety, then read it again and again, you will come to see that you have choices in every moment that you can use to make yourself happy or miserable. It's just that simple. But simple doesn't mean easy-you have to practice over and over again because long held ways of thinking and behaving don't yield to change overnight. Using notable luminaries and average folks, Dale Carnegie doesn't take off on some grand flight of fancy into vague esotericism, but stays wonderfully grounded in offering the tools to a better way of life.
Especially helpful is the advice to live in "day-tight compartments" and to challenge yourself to accept the worst while preparing to make the best out of any difficulty you may encounter. Also, his idea of religion/ spirituality the healthiest I have ever read. He says he has no interest in the creeds that separate people from each other, but has come to appreciate speaking with God simply as something wonderful he can do for himself that yields practical results. Just as fresh water, air, and rest benefit the body, so does a healthy spirituality benefit the mind and soul. At the end of the book are testimonials from all types of people on how they banished worry from their lives and truly began to live again. This book is inspiring, informative, motivational, and comforting. If you read this with an open mind, you will realize that there is really never anything to "worry about" and you will be in command of that most precious of gifts we humans are given: the power of the mind and will to live life in a self-determined way. This is THE classic and if properly appreciated and understood will change your life forever. Quite simply, the best of its kind. Ever! |
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Stephen Pletko (MSL quote), Canada
<2007-01-04 00:00>
In this book, by Dale Carnegie, you will learn the following:
(1) Fundamental facts about worry
(2) Basic Techniques in analyzing worry
(3) How to break the worry habit before it breaks you
(4) Seven ways to cultivate a healthy mental attitude
(5) The perfect way to conquer worry
(6) How to keep from worrying about criticism
(7) Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry
(8) Thirty-one true stories about those who conquered worry and how they did it
Carnegie explains what his book is:
"[This] is what this book is: a collection of successful and time-tested recipes to rid ourselves of worry. However, let me warn you: you won't find anything new in it, but you will find much that is not generally applied."
Carnegie also states:
"One thing is certain: this book is practical. You can set [or sink] your teeth in it."
A great feature of this book besides the information it contains is its summaries, thus making it very easy to read. Most chapters contain rules in boldface type that are summary statements of the entire chapter. For example, what is the rule for chapter 17? Just turn to the end of this chapter and you'll see it:
"When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade."
Besides these chapter summary statements, each part or section (except part 5 and the last part) contains a summary entitled "Part...in a Nutshell." For example, this is the summary for section four:
"Part Four in a Nutshell: Seven Ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you health and happiness." Then there is a listing of the seven rules that are the summaries of each of the seven chapters that make up this section or part.
The last section contains thirty-one inspirational, true stories with the theme of "how I conquered worry." At the end of most of these stories is a brief summary point in boldface type that summarizes the entire story. For example, there is a story entitled "I was warned not to speak or to move even a finger" by J.L. Ryan. The summary point for this story is as follows:
"Mr. Ryan is alive today because he made use of the principle...Face the worst that can happen."
Finally, the only problem I had with this book is that it has no notes or footnotes and no references. Carnegie tells us early on that he read "what the philosophers of all ages had said about worry. [He] also read hundreds of biographies, all the way from Confucius to Churchill. [He] also interviewed scores of prominent people in many walks of life." This is impressive but none of this is documented formally in this book!
However, he does give credit to some of his sources in his narrative but these are informal, incomplete references. Still I spotted many things that were not referenced even informally.
In conclusion, this is a practical, concrete, easy-to-read, inspiring handbook on conquering a major problem of humankind. Carefully read this book to learn why "Those who do not know how to fight worry die young!" |
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Koosed (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
Not long ago, when I was newly divorced mom with two teenagers, and plenty of reasons to worry, I found this little book. That year, I'd made a New Year's resolution to stop worrying. Living one day at a time sounded like a great idea. But I did not know how. How to stop worrying?
The book had actually been lying on a bookshelf in my home for a very long time. My copy was so old that the pages were yellow, and crumbling I had picked it up once, glanced through it and laid it down, thinking that my problems were just too overwhelming to listen to yet another positive-thinking guru.
This time, as I read and re-read the book, I came to love the people in it, who told their stories in such heart-felt, simple words. Because, you see, the book was written in a laboratory of human experience. For five years, as a teacher of adult education classes at the YMCA, Dale Carnegie taught a class in how to stop worrying. Each week his students, who came from all walks of life, tried his ideas out, and returned to class with honest feedback on what actually worked for them. Carnegie eventually put their stories together, including what they learned as a group. That's how the book took shape.
The stories, all true, are drawn from days when people had good reason to worry. This was the generation which lived through the Great Depression, and then World War II. Everything is covered here - war, loneliness, financial problems (even bankruptcy-one man had gone through bankruptcy three different times, due to the Great Depression), death, worry over children, health problems, fear of the future.
A number of them had come close to ending their lives due to overwhelming personal problems. Everything is described honestly, in this little book. Yet all of them learned to stop worrying. And they tell how they did it.
Some used prayer as a comfort. The book was written during the days when people weren't ashamed to admit that they found comfort in religious belief. But that isn't the main emphasis of the book. It's filled with practical, down-to-earth approaches for living day to day, happily. The answers are those found in the laboratory of real human experience - not theory, but what works.
If you're like me, prone to waking at night, anxious with what Carnegie calls the "wibber-gibbers," it's the ideal bedside companion, and a true comfort throughout life's up and downs.
Recently, during a lawsuit which caused me a significant amount of anxiety, I tore this little paperback into sections, and carried a section into court with me, to read during odd moments as I waited for the outcome of my case. This book, and the love and support of my family, carried me through. |
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Rolf Dobelli (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
Dale Carnegie compiles time tested wisdom in this book of principles on how to avoid worrying about problems you can't affect. Carnegie outlines some basic principles to help you stop worrying. He draws from common sense, from people who have achieved peace and happiness, and from the sayings of philosophers, business leaders and others. Although Carnegie wrote his book in the 1940's and some of his examples may seem dated, his basic principles are timeless - in fact, ahead of his time. He presents them in an easy-to-read, personal way. He draws on his own and other people's experiences to show a number of techniques for letting go of worries and becoming more productive. We at getAbstract recommend this self-development classic to everyone. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
I have had this book for years and can honestly say that is probably one of the best self-improvement books on the market today. The book is peppered with stories of individuals who overcame tremendous struggles and angst. Some of the stories are a bit outdated and hokey, but if you can get past that, the informational content still holds true for today. Each chapter contains practical bullet point info that anyone can use and the chapters are summarized at the end to re-iterate the main points covered. This is an invaluable guide for those of you who are ready to start living a worry free life. Worth purchasing for your home library and would be an excellent gift for a friend or family member. Also worth considering would be the audio version of this book. |
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Jennifer (MSL quote), UK
<2007-01-04 00:00>
I love this book as it really reminds you of what is important in life.
We all have times in our lives when we worry but where does it ever get us? I have the added problem of worrying about my worrying which may seem laughable but it is very frustrating as I don't actually have anything to worry about if I remember to just live in the present. All of my fears lie in the future.
This book is able to reassure the worrying reader by reminding us time and time again how worrying doesn't get us anywhere but also that many other people (including many famous historical figures)have struggled and overcome these problems too.
Although there are many anecdotes in the book (and I have noted that other reviewers have disliked this about it) I believe that this is necessary in order to keep hitting home the fact that there are so many things that people can worry about but that there are always solutions or at least different ways to think about things.
It offers peace of mind and faith that you can pull yourself out of the rut you think yourself into without resorting to therapists or anti-depressants.
It does need to be used as a life guide so be prepared to re-read from time to time, not necessarily just when you feel all your worries getting the better of you.
To get the most out of this book you need to be prepared to take on board all that he and many others have said and to be pro-active in changing the way you handle and view your worries. I do believe that we all have the ability to do this so don't worry! |
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Don Nguyen (MSL quote), Australia
<2007-01-04 00:00>
In a world fall of Prozac and expensive therapists, this book is a refreshing change. The book provides a set of very simple principles that you can apply to your life to stop worrying.
The book is well written and very easy to read. The chapters are short and therefore easy to absorb. The lessons are not profound. Rather, the book reminds us of simple things that we may have forgotten. It chides us for worrying about trivial things, for worrying about things that we cannot change and for worrying about things that may never pass.
The book may seem slightly dated nevertheless its basic tenets are sound. The one thing I did not like about the book was its overuse of stories and anecdotes. The book would make a point and then use quite a number of stories to support the point. I think this was excessive. One or two supporting anecdotes would have been sufficient.
Overall this book has made a change to the way that I view the world. If we all stepped back and objectively analyzed our current lives, most of us would realize how fortunate we are to enjoy the privileges that we do today. Strongly recommended for anyone currently living the modern day, hectic, stress filled lifestyle. |
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Charles (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
Tossed to me at a time in my life when I was drowning in my worries. Oh, my worries were real enough, I had good cause to worry! Everyone said so. My husband died suddenly, then my teenage daughter got into drugs, dropped out of school and ran away! I worried so much my hair fell out!! And this went on for several YEARS! In this book I met other people who had good cause to worry, too. Those who shared their life experiences with Dale Carnegie, and gave him their best coping techniques so that he could compile them in a single text. They talked about how they dealt with the fear of war, or illness, or poverty, or lonliness and the worst one of all: despair. I read it over and over. I clung to the stories of people rising above their circumstances and making it through hard times. This book is FILLED with things you can do IMMEDIATELY to improve your life, practical concepts that REALLY WORK. Even though I am in a happier place in life at this time, I thank God for this book and the calm it brought me during my toughest years. |
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Kimberley Wilson (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
For some reason, self help books tend to be terribly expensive so before you go on a epic spending spree trying to help yourself give ole Dale Carnegie a look. He and Napoleon Hill are the granddaddies of the entire self-help industry and his book still has much to say.
The book is completely free of pyshobabble. You will not be asked to look for your inner child. You will not be asked to blame your parents. You will be encouraged to help yourself. You will be asked to let go of old hurts, hates, and bitterness. You will be told over and over again that there is hope and that you can change your life.
The first half of the book is solid gold. Dale Carnegie never presented himself as perfect. He pointed out his own anxieties and showed how he freed himself from them. He also uses examples from famous and ordinary people of the day showing how they picked themselves up. Go through the book with a highlighter, photocopy sections, write down some of the quotes and tape them to your computer or wall or bathroom mirror where you can see them everyday.
Now about the second half. Okay, it's not as good and I think Carnegie probably added it to please his publishers. It doesn't matter. The first half of the book makes up for the weakness of this section.
If you are going through a bout of the blues or if you've been a big time frantic worrier for all of your life check out How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. I'm not saying it's the ultimate answer but it's an accessible, enjoyable and inexpensive start. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-04 00:00>
I have to confess, I'm a chronic worrier. I was even back in high school when I found this book from my sister's Dale Carnegie course and began reading it. While it's been nearly 20 years since I read this book, I've been carrying its principles ever since. The best part of this book and Carnegie's other landmark, "How to Win Friends and Influence People," is it's all common sense. Sometimes, it's so easy to see the obvious until it's pointed out to you and illustrated with very easy to understand anecdotes. The book teaches you to live in day-tight compartments, to accept the worst-case scenario so you can be prepared to handle the consequences, to weigh the odds (Carnegie tells, for example, the story of how as a little boy he started crying because he thought he was going to be buried alive), etc. You won't find a lot of psycho-babble here, just real life experiences from real people to deal with an all too real problem. |
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