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Life Strategies Cd : Doing What Works Doing What Matters [ABRIDGED] [AUDIOBOOK] (Audio CD)
by Phillip C. McGraw
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McGraw tells readers they must stop playing the victim and take responsibility for their lives. Should be required reading for anyone preparing for life, or confused or frustrated with life and its outcomes. |
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Author: Phillip C. McGraw
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
Pub. in: February, 2000
ISBN: 0743500598
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Measurements: 5.8 x 4.9 x 1 inches
Origin of product: USA
Order code: BB00056
Other information: Abridged edition; ISBN-13: 978-0743500593
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- Awards & Credential -
The #1 New York Times Bestseller |
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In this #1 national bestseller, Dr. Phil McGraw presents 10 Life Laws geared toward helping readers take responsibility for their own actions and break free from self-destructive habits and situations. Whether it's a bad relationship, a dead-end career, or a harmful habit, Dr. McGraw shows readers how to confront their problems, identify the causes, and start working toward permanent solutions.
Life Law #1 - You either get it, or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who get it.
Life Law #2 - You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life.
Life Law #3 - People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.
Life Law #4 - You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it.
Life Law #5 - Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger.
Life Law #6 - There is no reality; only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world.
Life Law #7 - Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life.
Life Law #8 - We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain, how people treat you.
Life Law #9 - There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you.
Life Law #10 - You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.
Dr. Phil has popped out a refreshingly in-your-face contribution to the self-help genre that doesn't beat around the bush. You will not be asked to commune with your inner child or vent your anger and pain. Instead, Life Strategies is a prescription for action, complete with stories, including about Oprah. Each chapter contains at least one writing assignment, designed to stimulate honest inquiry and to challenge even your most basic assumptions. These culminate in a meticulously detailed set of instructions for creating your life strategy. Organized self-starters will love the lists and matrices, but even readers who don't plunge into the assignments will gain fresh insights into their behavior. We prescribe this bouncy book to anyone seeking a step-by-step plan for self- assessment and realistic life change. Cynics need not apply.
(From quoting Pulisher, Gerald Khoo, and Rolf Dobelli)
Target readers:
General readers
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Dr. Phillip C. McGraw is the person Oprah credits with helping her win the Amarillo beef trial. He is a trial scientist with over fifteen years' experience in the psycho-legal system. Having earned a Ph.D. degree in Behavioral Sciences, Dr. McGraw relies upon a broad base of academic and applied experiences in predicting, measuring and utilizing the value systems and decision-making patterns and processes of contemporary juries. As President of Courtroom Sciences, Inc., Dr. McGraw leads a litigation consulting firm comprised of experts from the fields of psychology, law, biomedicine, medicine, engineering, business, computer sciences, communication, economics and finance. Dr. McGraw has also trained thousands of people in effective life skills seminars, principally communications and relational management. He also conducts Texas and American Bar Association approved continuing education courses for lawyers (MCLE) in the area of trial science, particularly the forecasting and influence of civil trial verdicts.
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In this #1 national bestseller, Dr. Phil McGraw presents 10 Life Laws geared toward helping readers take responsibility for their own actions and break free from self-destructive habits and situations. Whether it's a bad relationship, a dead-end career, or a harmful habit, Dr. McGraw shows readers how to confront their problems, identify the causes, and start working toward permanent solutions.
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-25 00:00>
If you are one of those people who shy away from doing a truly in-depth analysis of why you perpetuate unproductive, dysfunctional behavior, this book is not for you. On the other hand, if you are willing and desire to explore the inner you and examine what motivates your behavior even if the truth is ugly, hateful and makes you want to run and hide, then this book may be helpful to you. My quest for self-improvement led me to read this book and ultimately discover the hidden payoffs for my counterproductive behavior. This book, in addition to Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, helped me to totally change my thought process and as a result I lost 89 pounds with no gym, trainer or surgery. Nothing but pure motivation propelled me to exercise everyday (at home with videotapes and outside-first walking, then running) and it was therapy for me. I've made a 180 degree turn from the negativity I used to manifest due to my pessimistic viewpoint of life. I've improved 100% body and mind and give the credit to both of the earlier mentioned books and to God, because I also prayed a lot. |
Innerchi (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-25 00:00>
In this book Dr Phil gives some strategies to improve your life. With his simple homespun wisdom he gives 10 life laws. He also uses great anecdotes and metaphors to make his points.
There are rules such as:
You create your own experiences
There is no reality only perception
Life rewards action
Life is managed, it is not cured
You can't change what you don't acknowledge
There is power in forgiveness
You got to name it before you can claim it
I acknowledge the truth of these statements, yet to change your life, I believe you have to acknowledge that all power comes from within, and adjust your internal perceptions in order to change your external reality, and break out of your limiting behavior. Otherwise, if you think the way you've always thought, you will get what you have always got.
Also, learn to master your emotions, or your emotions will master you. Energy flows where attention goes.
There are many great books on this subject. I recommend you read Cherie Carter Scott's If life is a game, these are the rules (see below). The Huna philosophy from Hawaii also has interesting concepts.
Rule One - You will receive a body. It's yours for life, so accept it, and learn to love it.
Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'.
Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn.
Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - 'causality' must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn't happen overnight, so give change time to happen.
Rule Five - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the 'rhythm of life', don't struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.
Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what's good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.
Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self- aware- ness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.
Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what's right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.
Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.
Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself. There is no reality, only perception.
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Heather Degeorge (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-25 00:00>
A previous reviewer found this book to be common sense. Okay - a portion of it is. But how many people are using their common sense? Better yet, how many HAVE it? There were plenty of times where I was reading and thought "Well, yeah - of course" but when I looked at my life, that's not what I was actually DOING. As for checking out your thinking abilites at the gate - that may actually be what you need to effect change in your life. Perhaps you need to hand it over to someone else to "reprogram" some of your thought process in order to make significant changes in your life...? After all, if you're reading this book you obviously feel like there is something you could be doing better or different.
I found this book to be eye-opening. Occasionally harsh... occasionally wasn't what I wanted to hear... occasionally ticked me off. All things I needed to hear/read and accept to effect change in my life in ways that are different from what I've been doing. It is written very much in his boot-camp "get real" tone. He's not catering to your feelings, he's expecting you to pick up your bootstraps and move forward to make changes in your life. If you are up for that, then this is the book. Isn't the definition of stupidity something like "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting the results to be different"? |
An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-25 00:00>
To the stay at home mom who didn't find it useful, I'd like to say that it's not just for people who want to get ahead at work. You can be a stay at home mom and still have a purposeful life. Life isn't just about work, and I think that's one thing, among others, that I got out of this book. The whole concept of an authentic is probably not a new thing of Dr. Phil's, but the way he doesn't mollycoddle people is great. His strength is that he tells it to people straight, but if you've seen his shows, you also know that he cares very much about the people he talks to. That's why he doesn't mince words. The whole thing about taking responsibility for your own actions is something we Americans need to keep in mind more often! Now, maybe it's impossible to reduce life to ten little rules, , but I think the whole point is that if we have some major guidelines, the little decisions kind of take care of themselves. Think of the rules as way to check that you're on track in life. Now what exactly that means to you is also something you can explore in the process of reading his books. How many of us have truly sat down and thought about what we really want out of life? That's what I meant when I said it's not just for people wanting to get ahead at work. This book is definitely worth working through. |
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