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Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool (精装)
by Hal Edward Runkel
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Parenting, Relationship |
| Market price: ¥ 218.00
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¥ 198.00
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| MSL Pointer Review:
A 5-star book packed with great advice for those who want to raise responsible children. |
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John Lee (Bestselling author of the Flying Boy and Growing Yourself Back Up), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
If I had a magic wand, I would give this book to every parent. It is a must-read! |
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Mark James, M.D. (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
ScreamFree Parenting could enlighten many, stir a little positive karma into things, and turn lives around. |
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From BookWire Review (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
The priceless suggestions, reflective questions, and true stories set apart Runkel's alluring, fascinating book... a fantastic endeavor... |
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Mary (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
My husband and I used to have very different parenting styles. He would lose his cool and scream and I would let them do whatever they wanted to do. After reading this book, we're definitely more on the same page. We found another book on Amazon that helps you to communicate better - but with a twist. It helps you communicate much better with your spouse about how to raise your kids, from before birth until empty nest. It's called The Parenting Game Plan. Negotiate, Compromise and Explore the Parenting Journey Together. A Unique Workbook to Help New and Expectant Parents by Katie B. Marsh. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
Hal Runkel is not only an author of ScreamFree Parenting, but an angel sent from Heaven or a magician, whichever your personal stance lends itself to. It is an absolute must read and reread and reread again for every parent. If you could read only one parenting book, I would say this one is it without a doubt. In today's modern, hectic societies, we all need a "calm before the storm." The uninevitable storms are bound to come along once in a while. Hal provides parents with the survival tools to weather the issues of raising our children when the pressure builds. Calmness translates into being the best that you can be. When we can think, problem solve, and react with a calm, cool mindset, positive outcomes occur. Calmness perpetuates calmness, just as conflict perpetuates conflict. It is a book that stays by my bed so that I have it at my fingertips when I get a few extra moments. It is a resource that I will continue to reread throughout the years ahead of raising our children. I feel that I am in debt to Hal for his miraculous vision. I intend to continue the legacy and pass the book to my children one day as they venture into parenthood, and they too will be eternally grateful to Hal and his team. The cycle will continue from generation to generation, what a great concept. He certainly has gone above and beyond doing what he was called to do on this earth. Hal is the coolest for keeping us cool and thus allowing for our children to be the best they can be. If the principles were carried through to all human relationships, what a wonderful world it could be. |
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Meryl Evans (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
I've been trying to cut down on yelling and work through problems by staying calm, which is the approach Runkel, a licensed family and marriage therapist, advocates. The book is an easy read and doesn't overwhelm the parent with too many steps as self-help books often do.
The clear, direct, and humorous writing style allows parents with hectic lives to quickly read the book, absorb its concepts, and put them to use. Each chapter ends with reflection questions to reinforce the themes from the chapter. The book continues its effectiveness whether or not the reader answers the questions. However, thinking about the questions might shed light on you, your kids, and your relationships.
The concept of parents not letting their emotions guide their response to a child's troubles is not new, but Runkel shares stories, experiences, and explanations on how to do it. Sure, junior spilling juice all over the carpet can make any parent mad, but dealing with the situation while maintaining control has better results than a scream fest, spanking, or arguing.
Though the book focuses on parenting, its concepts largely address ourselves as individuals. For we have to take care of us first before others. Instead of permissive or dictatorship parenting, Runkel encourages judo parenting, which is "the art of going with another's momentum." He shows how to do this by providing the answers to the questions all parents get like "I'm bored," "Are we there yet?" and "I hate you!"
Two nitpicks. First, there are a few religious references. I wish this had been omitted because religion is a hot issue and the book's concepts fly well without the religious quotes or references. Using these unnecessarily limits the book's reach as people who skim the book might get the impression it's only for Christian parents. It's not.
The second is not an issue, but rather a want for more examples of using the ScreamFree approach. The stories in the book explain the concept very well and having more would enhance the book's usefulness.
When I told my oldest about the book, she said parents who yell are teaching their kids to yell when they become adults. Deep and accurate insight, as we've seen many children grow up to pick up their parents' bad habits. Overwhelmed parents can begin with one step by picking one situation that pushes their buttons and applying the ScreamFree approach until they get the hang of it. Runkel doesn't pressure the reader and the concepts are doable. |
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Harold McFarland (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
Parenting is full of challenges as well as surprises both pleasant and unpleasant. Although it is understandable that sometimes dealing with children can cause a parent to lose their cool and scream at the children this is not the preferred response. Screaming is a reaction and not a purposeful and appropriate course of action. Taking control of yourself and your job as a parent is what this book is about. The author is realistic and recognizes that even the best parents struggle with the tendency to react instead of act with purpose. The difference between these scream free parents and others is that they learn to control that tendency to react and choose a more appropriate course of action. The book is delightfully realistic and insightful and points out some of the normal conundrums of raising children. Well written and engaging, a combination that is hard to find in this style of book, you will find familiar situations consistently throughout the book. Scream Free Parenting is a recommended read for parents with children of all ages.
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E. Bukowsky (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-10 00:00>
ScreamFree Parenting by Hal Runkel, is an excellent parenting guide that will help moms and dads everywhere to keep (or regain) their sanity. Runkel is a licensed family and marriage therapist and one of the founders of ScreamFree Living, Inc. The book's thesis is that parents cannot keep tabs on their kids 24/7, nor can they force their children to consistently behave in a certain way. Therefore, mothers and fathers would be better off learning to focus on how they react to their children's words and actions.
Parents, Runkel contends, should take stock of themselves. Are they in control of their behavior when they interact with their children? Or are they at the mercy of their "emotional reactivity" - their unthinking, knee-jerk reactions? If the latter is true, it is likely that parent-child interactions will be tense, angry, and unproductive.
All of us who have struggled with parental responsibilities instinctively realize that a calm and reasoned approach is far more effective than a hysterical and dictatorial one. However, because of fatigue, ignorance, or inertia, many of us instinctively lash out, saying things that we don't really mean when our kids push our buttons. What to do?
Runkel does not advocate a permissive parenting style. Rather, the author recommends what he calls "judo parenting." Judo is "the art of going with another's momentum." A ScreamFree parent facilitates rather than dictates; he encourages his children to use their own resources to solve problems. By helping kids to get in the habit of making their own decisions and living with the consequences, parents will be more likely to launch "self-directed" adults.
Runkel's writing style is clear, concise, humorous, and to-the-point. The book is conveniently divided into easy-to-read sections and the chapters all conclude with thought-provoking "reflection questions." The author provides many practical examples to demonstrate how his principles work in the real world. Runkel's amusing quotations from a wide variety of sources add liveliness to his message. In additon, there are lengthier anecdotes that are taken from Runkel's experiences as a family therapist. Most parents will pick up many useful tips from ScreamFree Parenting. It is an entertaining, intelligent, and practical approach to raising our kids without losing our minds. |
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G. Miller (MSL quote), UK
<2007-01-10 00:00>
Hal E. Runkel's ScreamFree Parenting is a great book. If, like me, you share a certain aversion to self-help books then this book will pleasantly surprise you with its good sense and clear non-jargoned prose. And if, like me, you are somewhat cynical about your ability to change long established patterns of behaviour, Hal has the unnerving ability to surprise you into believing that you can.
The author's understanding of the real ways human beings interact in families is revealed both in his persuasive arguments and in the excellent anecdotes that pepper the book. The book is about parenting, but Hal has much more to say about human relationships in general. He even has some fascinating comments on the modern disease of obesity in Western society.
Hal basically asks the reader to "grow up." But he does this so persuasively, and with such good humour, that this reader actually wanted to grow up, and more importantly, thinks that this may be a possibility. |
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