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Attachment Parenting: Instinctive Care for Your Baby and Young Child (平装)
by Katie Allison Granju
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Amazon.com, USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
"Attachment to and dependency on parents... is a normal, healthy aspect of childhood and not something that needs to be discouraged." This quote from Attachment Parenting: Instinctive Care for Your Baby and Young Child sums up the attitude behind the growing shift in many Western cultures toward a labor-intensive but arguably more rewarding, effective, and "natural" way to raise children. This philosophy, termed "Attachment Parenting" by its champion, pediatrician and father of eight Dr. William Sears (author of the popular child-care manual The Baby Book, among others), sees infants not as manipulative adversaries who must be "trained" to eat, sleep, and play when told, but as dependent yet autonomous human beings whose wants and needs are intelligible to the parent willing to listen, and who deserve to be responded to in a reasonable and sensitive manner. As with Sears's books, there are no plans or schedules here, no specific prescriptions for what to do with your child. Techniques to facilitate connection and communication are outlined, but mostly the book is an exhortation to listen and to trust yourself, and to trust your child's ability to convey to you what he or she needs.
Information is provided in a well-organized format that parents will find useful. Common questions regarding some of Attachment Parenting's less orthodox tenets are answered, and each section of the book provides lengthy reading and resource lists, Web sites, and e-mail addresses. This book also provides a fairly broad discussion of how working parents can incorporate such a "high-touch" style of care into their busy schedules. The authors are sometimes painfully straightforward about the cost-benefit analysis parents must go through when deciding to work outside the home, but they do not patronize working parents by glossing over this difficult decision. They show how Attachment Parenting can be especially beneficial to these families and give advice on choosing child care, breastfeeding after returning to work, and the techniques for creating a breastfeeding-friendly workplace.
Given the overwhelming cultural paradigms that parents must resist if they are going to adopt this compassionate methodology, the book's sometimes defensive tone can be at least partially excused. As a whole, parents will find this a good overview of some compelling arguments for Attachment Parenting and a wonderful resource for delving deeper into the issues it addresses. How much of it they choose to integrate into their lives is, as the book emphasizes, their decision to make, with their baby. -Katherine Ferguson |
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Library Journal (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
Drawing on the literature of Dr. William Sears, who provides the book's introduction, Granju (with the help of Kennedy, R.N., M.S.N.) offers a mother's insight into the concept of attachment parenting. Rather than the typical child care approach that provides a list of generic "do's and don'ts" during certain phases in a baby's development, the attachment theory posits that parents know their child better than so-called experts. Granju examines breast feeding, baby wearing, and the family bed as natural concepts conducive to raising healthy children. She relates numerous experiences of mothers pulled from Internet listservs. Patrons may be well served by using these addresses to engage in their own Internet discourse, but, unfortunately, these rather flat anecdotes, along with extensive lists of attachment parenting resources, comprise the bulk of the book. Attachment Parenting adds nothing that Sears hasn't already covered in more detail in his many respected and groundbreaking works. Purchase for public libraries where demand warrants.ALisa Powell Williams, Moline Southeast Lib., IL
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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Katie (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
This book will rank with Sears, Leach, Spock, and Brazelton in years to come. The book takes a balanced, reasonable approach to childcare, while never ignorng the fact that baby humans are mammals, after all, and have certain inborn needs in infancy. As far as practical advice, the book is loaded with it, particularly in regards to infant sleep and breastfeeding. The resource sections are the best I've seen in any parenting book.I recommend this book heartily. It's easy to see why the editors of Amazon named it one of the ten best parenting/family books of 1999. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
I wish that this book had been available when my children were born. It's all so natural and sensible, but somewhere along the way we lost it - snuggling, breast-feeding, sleeping with and thoroughly enjoying a vital, intense connection with our young. Attachment parented children are certain to become secure, centered, happy adults. Buy it and do it! |
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Jenny (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
I highly recommend this book to all expectant and new parents. I loved the information on the family bed, infant sleep patterns, breastfeeding..and everything else. The writing is clear and fun to read and the comments from other "real" parents made it more believable to me. This is my new favorite parenting book. I think it's destined to be a classic. |
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Cathy Holland (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
When my childrn were small, I read a story from this book to them nearly every night as I rocked them. I did this for several years. The stories were short enough that they did not get bored. They were meaningful in that the stories were historical and religious. The stories provided them with easy to remember incidences of cause, effect and consequences upon which to make decisions. It has given them the foundation to make major decisions in their life, especially, their decision about accepting Jesus Christ as the Savior of the world. The time I spent with them allowed me to instill my love and values into them. Now I wish I had read to them longer, because it was such a special part of the day. But they do grow up and need a little space. So far, I have been very proud of my two boys. I often give this book or one similar to it as a baby gift. The book is special and can make life have a special meaning to every one who reads or listens to it. |
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Jennifer (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
This book will now join Meredith Small's _Our Babies, Ourselves_ as one I give to every pregnant woman I know.
Apart from being the single most comprehensive guide to attachment parenting, it is one of the few general childcare books that discusses the concerns of the entire family - mother, father, grandparents and all. Babies do not grow up in a vacuum, and _Attachment Parenting_ recognizes that and addresses many of the questions of the people who together form a baby's world.
It is also remarkable for the quality and quantity of the outside resources it recommends (websites, books, catalogues, mailing lists, real life support groups, etc.).
The style is clear and accessible, the numerous quotes from real parents as well as parenting experts are enlightening, and the issues this book raises are timely and relevant. I can't think of a better general resource for any new parent.
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Chris (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
If you're not sure you really understand what Attachment Parenting *is*, this is the book for you. It's well-written, well-organized and full of both practical and thoughtful information. It's also very hard-hitting. The chapter on why sleep-training methods are a bad idea really made me re-think some of my previous views. I also like the book because the author doesn't "guilt" anybody. She says that attachment parenting can take lots of forms in different families. As a working mother, I loved the chapter on how to integrate attachment parenting into a working parent's life. This was overall the best parenting book I've ever read. |
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
This is a great book. It really affirms the fact that 'kids are people, too!' and that there is no 'rushing' your baby to sleep through the night. There is much info on the benefits of breastfeeding so if you are a breastfeeding mother already (like me), what I found more interesting and affirming were the writings on bonding, sleeping with your baby and really just enjoying and loving your baby esp. during the breastfeeding months. I stopped feeding my 2 year old when she was a year old and really felt quite sad but my milk really did 'dry up' by then(!). It's just wonderful to read a book where there is so much respect for the child and no one saying that by caring for your baby in this way you will be spoiling her.I never believed that line of thinking. |
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Katie (MSL quote), USA
<2008-01-08 00:00>
What a great book. I didn't think I needed to check it out because I am a five-year attachment parent with two wonderfully adjusted and happy kiddos. However, it was wonderful to revisit my ideals in print and of course great to support Katie, a fellow writer! I would encourage people who want more guidance in moving past family bed to re-read the book with a more open mind. The main tenet of attachment parenting is understanding that children DO move on in their OWN time. Thus there isn't much need to look for a specific date or age at which your child "should" be more independant. Independance grows from dependance, after all. If certain practices aren't working as well (family bed, extended breastfeeding) it is extremely worth-while and necessary to figure out why they aren't working and honor that difficulty. Of course mom's needs are important too and there are many middle roads to take, such as buying a bigger bed or putting a toddler bed alongside the family bed. I too felt the need to get "my body back," as one reviewer put it, after I had nursed both my kids for two years. A gentle segue past nursing involved more solids, lots of holding, talking about nursing, and reminding myself that nursing isn't just for food but also for emotional support. "Weaning," though I hesitate to call it that, came naturally and sweetly. Remember that even if you nurse for four years that is still only four years-a mere blink of an eye in the grand scheme of life, but ever so vital. A job well done! |
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