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Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives (Paperback)
by Laura Schlessinger
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Laura's statements are sometimes painful, but always right on target. An empowering book a female can read to help take control of her behavior and choices. |
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Author: Laura Schlessinger
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks; Reprint edition
Pub. in: February, 1995
ISBN: 0060976497
Pages: 256
Measurements: 8.2 x 5.3 x 0.6 inches
Origin of product: USA
Order code: BA00497
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The author has written 8 New York Times bestsellers on behavior and relationships. |
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Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess up Their Lives is a summary of
self-defeating behaviors women use to hide their lack of self-esteem
and fear of following their dreams. By using real-life examples from
her professional practice and her nartionally syndicated radio show,
Dr. Laura explains the thinking (or lack of thought) behind poor
decisions that have a harmful impact on women, their families, and
their friends. These poor decisions are usually the easy out, and often compromise a person's integrity or plans for the future. Dr. Laura effectively demonstrates how withstanding momentary discomforts lead to a positive self-image and utlimately fulfilling life.
People who dislike this book because of Dr. Schlessinger's style need to put aside their reservations and focus on the truth of this book's content. She goes behind the gloss and tells straight out what makes women "martyr themselves on the altar of marriage".
And the real life examples, which everybody can relate to, make the book interesting and lend support to how important it is to lead a intelligent and moral lifestyle.
Target readers:
General readers
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger received her Ph.D. in physiology from Columbia University and holds a post-doctoral certification and licensing in marriage and family therapy. She is the author of eight New York Times bestsellers that have sold nearly five million copies to date, as well as four children's books. She is the host of an internationally syndicated radio program and is an avid sailor and bicyclist. She lives in Southern California with her husband. Their son, Deryk, has enlisted in the U.S. Army.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the incredibly popular and controversial psychotherapist who hosts a nationally syndicated, top-rated midday radio talk show. She has strong convictions and doesn't hesitate to voice them to callers. She urges women emphatically to lose a domineering jerk of a lover and pick one of the "good guys," to stay home and parent the babies they've made, and to follow the dream rather than some dreamboat. Above all, she exhorts women not to blame anybody or anything but themselves if they're unhappy and their lives seem a mess.
10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.
If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book.
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Amy (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I really enjoyed reading this book after a recommendation on a messageboard after sharing my experience. I didn't know what I was feeling and experiencing till I read this book. It was like it was writing about my life! Well, suffice to say, it helped me to open my eyes. I heard about the controversy surrounding this author and I understand why. She is being very realistic and sensible about realities of life. Most of the things in the book I have an agreement about, while some others it didn't really elaborate much. It depends where you are at this point in your life. But do read it if you're at crossroads (like I). But if you're totally happy with your relationship, then maybe it's not for you. |
Maddi Hausmann (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Dr. Laura Schlessinger was a radio powerhouse. Her talk show was heard coast to coast in the US and Canada, on as many as 470 radio stations. At one point, over 10,000 callers per hour tried her 1-800-DRLAURA number in an attempt to get some of her tough-talking advice. This book, her first, was written just as The Dr. Laura Show had gone national, and it shared her pragmatic cut-through-the-bull viewpoint with a wider audience.
What a difference a few years make. Schlessinger became a Conservative Jew, then an Orthodox Jew, and began following the same talking points heard on Rush Limbaugh and in WorldNetDaily. Today, the Dr. Laura show is on the decline. Fewer than 250 stations still carry it, and she is absent in several large markets such as New York, Chicago, and Baltimore. Her ill-fated attempt to move onto television was an utter failure, both critically and in ratings. Many controversies brewed, where she would attack yet another group and then be forced by her corporate bosses to issue a clenched-teeth denial. So it's interesting to reread this work from 1994, when Schlessinger's star was still rising. The first of many books by the onetime Queen of Rightwing Radio, it remains the her best both for what it is and what it is not.
Let's keep one thing clear: her radio show is still on the air because it remains compelling. Agree with her or not, the callers' problems are fascinating. While her advice may be spot on or completely off-target, it's hard to switch her off. But Schlessinger has difficulty maintaining radio's improvisational tone in an advice book, because the problems were carefully selected, rather than snagged from several random calls. And despite her having the luxury to choose the issues supporting her points, her humor often falls flat. ("Is a Woman just a Wo- Wo- Wo- on a man?" is one of her chapter headings. They get worse.) This is more forgivable during a live broadcast, yet it is her quickness on air that made her show worth listening to.
Ten Stupid Things' strength is in how Schlessinger described the many ways her callers made themselves unhappy. We all know women who feel they are nothing without a man (Stupid Attachment), or behaved like a fool while dating (Stupid Courtship), or who believed their love could conquer a man's rotten behavior (Stupid Devotion). The anecdotes are on target, as compelling as the calls that made it on air during the glory days of Dr. Laura.
Another reason this is her best book is for the mistakes it doesn't make. Written before Schlessinger's violent swing to the political right, her only agenda here (other than promoting her show) is helping her female audience avoid bad relationships that impact future generations. Refreshingly free of neocon rhetoric, it lacks later books' attacks on working moms, second wives, or teenaged girls with bared midriffs. Secular lifestyles are not the poison in the Wellspring of Family Values, as Schlessinger will inform us subsequently. Nor are we assaulted by her moral superiority via her religious restraint (look ahead to How Could You Do That?! and The Ten Commandments if you find yourself in need of abasement). This one of her few books that isn't a minefield of unintentional humor to those of us who read Vickie L. Bane's unauthorized biography, which was unfortunately published before the 1998 naked pictures on the Internet incident.
This book reminds me of why her show was so fresh and exciting in 1995: a feminist who had practical reasons why living together wasn't in women's best interest (this book has a whole chapter on Stupid Cohabitation); a modern, educated advisor who could convince callers that sex outside marriage hurts women more than men (Stupid Passion); a concerned radio show host who had the interests of kids foremost (Stupid Conception and Stupid Subjugation). The mix of modern science and traditional values was different, and Schlessinger's straightforward approach made it work far more effectively than the later religious rants and browbeating.
It's a pity that today's show no longer reads like this book (although Ten Stupid Things was never as good as the 1995-96 radio show). While the book was quite successful, and the show became successful, then Schlessinger choked on her own hubris. Unfortunately she never realized her errors and returned to her earlier roots, which is why you will not find a work this good among her other books.
Today Schlessinger still broadcasts her three-hours-a-day, five-days- a-week program, but has announced she is no longer an Orthodox Jew (what kind of a Jew she is she doesn't wish to inform us, but it's the kind who appears live on Yom Kippur). Read Ten Stupid Things not only for her good advice, but as a window to a kinder, gentler Laura Schlessinger. |
Robert (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Call me stupid, but this book made sense. As a pastor I have come to realize that pastoral counseling is not one of my strengths. My concept of pastoral counseling is to get a 2 x 4 and smack someone on the side of the head and tells them to get a life- perhaps, that is my this book appealed to me. Dr. Laura’s straightforward approach made perfect sense to me. Perhaps that is my so many woman reviews have panned this book at being cold, insensitive, or uncompassionate.
But after twenty years of pastoral counseling, I still am dumbfounded how some women sabotage their lives. Case in point. During premarital counseling sessions, I always try to determine whether there is drug or alcohol abuse, especially in second or third marriages where children are involved. More than once, I have been told that there is no abuse where I have suspected there was only to have the woman back in my office three to six months later crying her eyes out and blowing snot into her hanky and telling me about her husband’s drug or alcohol abuse. What is partially frustrating for me is that invariable these women knew before their marriage that the problem existed, but believed that love would solve the problem.
Ok, so I am another insensitive white male who does not understand woman. So be it. But I think that Dr. Laura is right.
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Maria Lee (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Dr. Laura gives it to you straight in this no nonsense book. While most people wouldn't have the guts to be this brutally honest and constructively critical, Dr. Laura goes where no one else dares to go. So many other self help books are too concerned about being politically correct and candy coating topics, that in the end you feel like you don't gain anything. But whether you like her or not, everything she says is actually true. This book will remind you of times in your life (and it's happened to all of us) when a family member or friend tells us something we don't want to hear but deep down inside we actually know is true. Dr. Laura is also a very logical person, so much of her opinions and advice is not hard to follow. I recommend this book to anybody in search of learning more about themselves and how they can improve themselves. |
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