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Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime (Paperback)
by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
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Disciplinary approach, Parenting |
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Based on the Emotional Intelligence theory of Daniel Goleman, this practical book is a prescription to peace and a lifetime relationship between parents and kids. |
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Author: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Pub. in: February, 2001
ISBN: 0060930438
Pages: 336
Measurements: 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
Origin of product: USA
Order code: BA00622
Other information: ISBN-13: 978-0060930431
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- Awards & Credential -
The second book from the bestselling author of Raising Your Spirited Child. |
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Most of the parents adopt the system of "Teaching skills" rathar than go through 'Teaching Life Essetial Skills'. Psychologists caution against casting children in specific roles: the quiet one, athletic one, smart one, clumsy one and even a negative type can provide harmful self image that a child may carry throughout his life. It is upto the parent to be an 'emotion coach' and teach the kids to cope up with situations of strengths and weaknesses and build up productive relationships.
In the Book Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, Kurcinka offers unique approaches to solving the daily, and often draining, power struggles between the parent and the child. She views these conflicts as rich opportunities to teach the child essential life skills, like how to deal with strong emotions and problem solve strategies. The current problem lies in discipline and parents, not only fail to understand the behaviour patterns of kids but also fail to bring well mannered kids. Reasons maybe many leading to neglected parental duties. Understanding a child's temperament and understand own's style is necessary says the author. It always depends on how one takes the struggles - whether weigh it lighter or exaggerate things with end only getting much worse and the prob trigger to be a 'troubleshooter' and wind up to face challenging "struggles." Kurcinka focus on tips for parental approach and teach the child self respect and self control. Authority over the child never works and this is one thing not to miss out if a parent wish for a positive answer to 'How will I want my child to behave when he turns a teenager? Overall, a good parental feedback. It sure is a win for Life time parent-kid relationship.
(From quoting Ilaxi Patel, USA)
Target readers:
Parents, teachers, preschool professionals, care givers, babysitters, parenting and family consultants and those giving gifts to parents.
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Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, M. A., has more than twenty years of experience as an award-winning educator and is the bestselling author of Raising Your Spirited Child and Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles. She lives in Minnesota.
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End Those Power Struggles and Begin Connecting with Your Child
Noted family educator Mary Sheedy Kurcinka struck a national chord with her bestselling Raising Your Spirited Child. Now she hits upon another crucial parenting topic: coping with the everyday challenges of disciplining your child, while understanding the issues behind his or her behavior. In Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, she offers unique approaches to solving the daily, and often draining, power struggles between you and your child. Kurcinka views these conflicts as rich opportunities to teach your child essential life skills, like how to deal with strong emotions and problem solve. With her successful strategies, you'll be able to identify the trigger situations that set off these struggles and get to the root of the emotions and needs of you and your child.
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William B. Carey, M.D. (Director of behavioral pediatrics, The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia), USA
<2007-01-14 00:00>
Mary Sheedy Kurcinka has written another excellent book for parents, this one about the seemingly inevitable power struggles between parents and their children. She provides wise, practical, and clear suggestions on how to avoid these conflicts and manage them better, chiefly by understanding the emotions that are fueling them. If only we all had this book a generation ago! |
Stella Chess, M.D. (Prof. of child psychiatry, New York University Medical School), USA
<2007-01-14 00:00>
Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles is a helpful addition to the parenting literature and a delight to read. Kurcinka's vivid descriptions bring to light common conflicts, but her primary lesson is that power struggles give parents an opportunity to teach their children better ways of expressing frustration, anger, jealousy, and other emotions. Kurcinka also helps us recognize the role that temperament, both our own and out child's, plays in family life - and that continued success depends on respecting our differences. |
A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-14 00:00>
This book is the type that you don't want to put down once you start reading it. I am learning so much about temperament and personality types, my own and my kids, and learning to understand that each difficult power struggle is an opportunity to TEACH your kids about how they can respond or react to their feelings and to learn about themselves. Since I've started reading this book, I have noticed a significant change in my reaction to them when my kids have a melt down, which is hard to prevent after a long day at school, or my reaction when they make a mess. Instead of yelling I try to express my self and TEACH them. I think this book should be read by every parent, because I know I never learned about temperament when I was growing up, and I have a doctorate. I will tell my husband to read it and also my parents, since they interact with my kids as well. If it's hard to listen to your kids, because they test you all the time (which it was for me), this gives you a new perspective and gives you a purpose in which to approach each power struggle. Enjoy!
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A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-14 00:00>
Although I found Kurcinka's first parenting book very helpful because of its child-friendly, logical approach to bettering your child's behavior (even though my son is not a "spirited" child) this one is much, much better. I love that she starts by positing the question, what sort of relationship do you want with your child when he's a teenager? Because if you want connection and trust instead of disconnection and distrust to be the defining qualities of that relationship, those authoritarian "do as I say not as I do", "I'm the parent so you WILL obey me" approaches are only effective in the short term. Kurcinka's is a much more sensible, reasonable, and compassionate approach, but be forewarned, it takes time, patience, consistency, and creativity.
Also, a big bonus for those of us with children who have sensory issues is that between her first and second books Kurcinka learned about sensory issues and sensory integration dysfunction. She only devotes three pages to it, but she explains it well. Moreover, this time around her advice to parents with kids who have this neurological problem isn't off-base, it's dead on. A child stressed by SI issues needs some of his stressors and pressures lessened or he will just be overwhelmed and unable to behave well. She talks the importance of sensory diet activities, which of course is crucial if you want your SID child to be able to behave well. Brava to Ms. Kurcinka for a fantastic guide to discipline!
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