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On Becoming Baby Wise: The Classic Sleep Reference Guide Used by Over 1,000,000 Parents Worldwide (Paperback)
by Gary Ezzo, Robert Bucknam
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A controversial book with mixed reviews. The best practice is not to depend on any single philosophy of childcare and to find which works best for you out of a couple of resources. |
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Author: Gary Ezzo, Robert Bucknam
Publisher: Parent-Wise Solutions; Revised & Expanded edition
Pub. in: November, 2001
ISBN: 0971453209
Pages: 238
Measurements: 8.1 x 5.2 x 0.5 inches
Origin of product: USA
Order code: BA00717
Other information: ISBN-13: 978-0971453203
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- Awards & Credential -
A very popular childcare reference in America despite its lack of credential to be universally regarded as a great resource. |
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As the quoted reviews have shown, this is a controversial book which advocating a childcare philosophy of parent centeredness.
When you go through the reviews, you'll see this philosophy works for some parents but doesn't work for the others.
Over 900 reviewers gave this book a collective rating of 3.5 stars, which is why we hesitated in our decision to carry this title.
We finally decided to carry this title because the book is so much well known and popular. The fact that a lot readers are against Mr. Gary Ezzo's advice does not suggest that others will find this advice useless.
Our conclusion is that, based on the experiences of different babies, Mr. Ezzo's methods should be studied with care. All potential customers should go through the quoted reviews and be aware of the different experiences using Mr. Ezzo's advice.
We also suggest you refer to the other popular books on childcare that we carry for a better undestanding of the available parenting concepts and techniques and try different things based on the situation of your baby. MSL will carry all the best known and bestselling books on this topic to suit the different needs of new parents.
See these titles in our list of recommendations below this book.
Target readers:
First-time parents, grandparents, nursery nurses, pediatricians, therapists, caregivers, babycare consultants, anyone who plans to have a baby, and gift-givers to new parents.
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Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo provide parents and teachers a clear pathway to influencing and raising emotionally balanced, intellectually assertive and morally sensible children. Their books are very popular with today's parents as demonstrated by the number of dog-eared copies passed from one family to the next. How many might that be?
The Ezzos' collective wisdom has now reached eight million parents with books translated into 17 languages. More than 12,000 Churches worldwide have utilized their teaching curriculumns. This site contains numerous articles and parenting helps from infancy through the teen years. The topics are divided according to general age category. In addition to this site, Growing Families International has a number of links to other helpful sites where parents can find more encouragement and biblical wisdom.
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From Publisher
The infant management concepts presented in this book have found favor with over two million parents and twice as many contented babies. On Becoming Babywise brings hope to the tired and bewildered parents looking for an alternative to sleepless nights and fussy babies. The Babywise Parent Directed Feeding concept has enough structure to bring security and order to your baby's world, yet enough flexibility to give mom freedom to respond to any need at any time. It teaches parents how to lovingly guide their baby's day rather than be guided or enslaved to the infant's unknown needs. The information contained within On Becoming Babywise is loaded with success. Comprehensive breast-feeding follow-up surveys spanning three countries, of mothers using the PDF method verify that as a result of the PDF concepts, 88% breast-feed, compared to the national average of only 54% (from the National Center for Health Statistics). Of these breast-feeding mothers, 80% of them breast-feed exclusively without a formula complement. And while 70% of our mothers are still breast-feeding after six months, the national average encourage to follow demand feeding without any guidelines is only 20%. The mean average time of breast-feeding for PDF moms is 33 1/2 weeks, well above the national average. Over 50% of PDF mothers extend their breast-feeding toward and well into the first year. Added to these statistics is another critical factor. The average breast-fed PDF baby sleeps continuously through night seven to eight hours between weeks seven and nine. Healthy sleep in infants is analogous to healthy growth and development. Find out for yourself why a world of parents and pediatricians utilize the concepts found in On Becoming Babywise.
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K. Boegel (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I tried this with my first child and she was sleeping through the night by 3 months. She was an "easy" baby, so I thought it might have been a coincidence, but when baby #2 came along, I used this method again and had the same wonderful results. It's great- we have scheduled meal and sleep times and I can plan outings and my own activities instead of living on the edge and hoping for a moment of time to get things done.
My mother always said that your children are only as happy as your marriage: This system allowed my hubby and I to have some alone time and to get a good nights' sleep (very important when your trying to manage a household and two kids!)
I can't stress enough that, despite what some folks may initially think, this system does not encourge withholding feedings!! That is a myth! If Jr. is crying at an unscheduled time, feed him an ounce or two to tide him over and then pick up the next feeding at the scheduled time. You are not starving your baby!
Both of my kids are great sleepers- at naps and at bedtime. You don't realize how sleep affects a child until you've had one that is isn't sleeping enough: trust me, it ain't pretty! Food and love are not the only important factors needed to raise a healthy baby- kids need sleep to relax and recharge. I have recommended this book to many friends and they have all been amazed at how well it works!
In response to those people who believe that this methodology somehow borders on child abuse, I have to say that I vehemently disagree. The key to utilizing ANY book on child-rearing is to tailor the methods to fit your particular situation. I still cuddle and attend to my kids when they cry- they know that they are loved and that I will respond to their needs. This book does not disavow affection: it merely guides you to the right way to respond to your baby. Crying does not always signal hunger and shoving food at a child every time they cry is closer to child abuse if you ask me. For example: If I feed Jake every three hours and he cries sometime in between, it's safe to initially assume that hunger is not the cause. Therefore, I am forced to really listen to him to establish why he is crying. This means that I automatically learn how to interpret his cries- perhaps he is tired or has a wet diaper or is uncomfortable. My children are secure in the knowledge that they will be fed- they don't need to wonder if and when the next feeding is coming and that is the security they need from the start. It builds their trust and confidence in me.
And yes, children go through growth spurts and cluster feeding which require flexibility and understanding. Again, you are not withholding feedings! There are other books out there which agree that child-centered parenting is not the way to go. Parents are the adults and need to set boundaries and routines from the start and that is what this system begins to show you how to do. Young kids thrive on routine- it gives them stability and allows them to feel secure. This system does not advise "fitting your children into your life" as one review suggested. Rather it gives you an informed, structured way to live your life along with your children instead of allowing them to run rampant over your marriage and your mental and physical health.
Anyone with children knows that they are (or should be) the center of your life from Day One, but they do not need to completely take over. If you allow this to happen, you will end up with a self-centered, selfish child who will expect everyone to put his needs above everything else. And how, pray tell, can anyone possibly give love, affection and proper care to a child when you are sleep-deprived and living moment-to-moment? Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of your child. |
Ruthie Gray (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
New moms don't have time to read a long review so I will be brief! I read over 15 books when I was pregnant and none quite said what I was looking for. I wish I had come across this one. As with everything, we have to read information and apply it to what fits best in our life and style.
This book has the best philosophy regarding parenting - everything is PARENT directed, not CHILD directed. With that said, so will the information taken from this book or anything else you read.
Overall it brought together a schedule of feeding that makes sense and is practical for many happy days to come with my daughter. It provides long term benefits for a baby's metabolism and sleep habits and in the meantime brings sanity to both baby and parent!
Some of the philosophies I adjusted to what worked for us. (We are still using the pacifier to go to sleep with.) Overall, learning to sleep on their own and develop the ability to wind down is a trait I wish more people would instill in their children. It is a valuable life trait to have. Yes, some of the thoughts are old school, but again - on the parent directed philosophy - don't do those things then. My daughter has been sleeping through the night since 4 months old. This is especially good because we didn't apply this parenting style until she was 2 months old and she was premature, so that is excellent!
The overall ideals of the book will make your baby the happiest baby on the block! |
A reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
After observing many parent friends and the sanity of their homes I decided Babywise was definitly worth reading. My friends with the happiest well adjusted and well behaved children use BabyWise. My friends who oppose Babywise and feel it is wrong or evil have never personally read the book from cover to cover but have only adopted the opinions of naysayers. Also, many of these have children sleeping in their beds between mom & dad until they are 4 years old, are cranky, needy chilren and live chaotic lives.
My husband and I read the book during my pregnancy and found it to be very balanced. We implemented the suggested guidelines with flexibility, as suggested, and we've had fantastic results. Our son has slept through the night in his own bed since 8 weeks. When we lay him down for naps or bedtime he goes right to sleep. When he wakes up he is full of smiles and giggles.
In the 8 months he's been alive we've flown with him 7 times and been on multiple road trips. Everyone we encounter says, "Wow, he is the happiest baby I've ever seen." and "Does he ever cry? He travels so well."
Through our travels and our business we've met many Docs and one child Psychologist whom have expressed the same compliments about our son. When I tell them we use BabyWise they often raise an eyebrow and express their disdane for this book and their opionion of it's rigidity. I recommended that they read it for themselves and not simply the opinions of naysayers. The proof is in the pudding.
Thank you Gary Ezzo for such a fantastic book! |
B. Miller (MSL quote), USA
<2007-02-12 00:00>
I strongly recommend new parents thoughtfully consider Baby Wise in developing your parenting style.
Now parents of a 5-month old, we used parent directed feeding (PDF from Baby Wise) from the day we left the hospital and have been pleased with the results. BabyWise claims that that the PDF method will often result in happy, well adjusted, satisfied, children that are pleasant to be around. We have found this to be the case.
My one gripe with the book is the lack of scientific, empirical studies on the PDF parenting style. Unfortunately, the book (and I) can only give anecdotal evidence of the merits of PDF based on personal experiences.
Born in the 25th percentile weight/height, our little one was on a predictable schedule within a week, consistently sleeping (7 hours) through the night within 7 weeks and has been sleeping 11 hours at night since 12 weeks. When in public, we often get comments that our baby "is so happy" and "content." We go out to eat several times a week - without more than smiles and laughs (we have only left a restaurant once - but were able to do so before he cried). We house-hunted 9 hours a day for a week (in and out of the car 10-15 times) and our real estate agent never heard the baby cry - no pacifier. We have been on five multi-hour plane trips without any more than a giggle and coo. One friend was reluctant to hold our baby because she said that "babies always cry when I hold them." Our little one was pleasant and smiley. Does our baby ever cry? Of course! He cries at least one time every day (usually during his predictable "fussy time" - a 45 minute stretch before bedtime.) When he does cry, diagnosing the problem is pretty simple with PDF (I'll let you read the book to find out how) - and I still haven't figured out how to differentiate types of crys as the hospital suggested. Just as indicated in Baby Wise, after being put to bed at 9pm, our little one wakes up at about 6:30am singing and cooing and goes back to sleep within 30 minutes. At 7:45 am, he wakes up again and greets us with a smile when we walk in the room. Our baby gained weight and height predictably throughout his first few months, moving into the 50th percentile weight/height at his last visit.
My sister and several of our friends have used Baby Wise with similar results.
Is Baby Wise for everyone? - Probably not. If you enjoy structure and organization and are accustomed to being on a regular schedule yourself, your parenting style will probably mesh nicely with Baby Wise. If you consider yourself a free spirit who enjoys responding to the unpredictability that life often brings, then you will probably find Baby Wise to be restrictive to your parenting style. In fact, we have friends who did not use Baby Wise and ended up with happy, pleasant children as well.
Does Baby Wise CAUSE babies to be pleasant and happy? I don't know, but it did work for us and I can only imagine how difficult parenthood would be for us without the principles explained in the book. |
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